My 18yr old son has aspergers & ADHD, he is rude, disrespectful, aggressive and lazy.
His exam results are poor, he just hasn't put the work in, he wasn't ever really interested in the subjects, he just scrapes by with the least amount of effort, instead he wastes hours on social media and computer games, he listens to violent sick music. He has a uni offer but I have no faith in him sticking the course, he's just going for the social life. He doesn't take seriously the debt he will be in and because of our earnings he will receive only half the maintenance loan but expects up to top it up by 5K! I don't feel we would be actually helping him if we gave him the money. But I haven't a clue what else he will do. He applied for an apprenticeship but is still waiting to hear back. He's said he doesn't want to do it as it means staying here with us. He has no interest in learning to look after himself or getting a job to move out (not that it's affordable) so we are all stuck in a terrible situation. We feel trodden on and battered by him and also trapped. He takes us for granted and speaks very loudly and aggressively over us. What are we supposed to do?