Feel I have lost connection with my adult child

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We are very much in touch but it feels as though we are on very different pages in terms of life aspirations and motivations. That’s not a criticism of him and I usually defend his choices to others but having spent the evening together I suddenly feel very alone, when usually spending time together leaves me feeling close to him

I actually feel quite teary

Can you be more specific? Aspirations - don't these evolve with age ? I don't have the same aspirations as my adult children .

They are very driven to attain wealth and want me to do the same to secure my old age

I have never been driven in that way.

You have grown an independent adult. Congratulations.

They are not supposed to be mini parents. They are entirely separate from you.

This is true

Don’t let him ‘bully’ you into doing what he thinks is right.
And maybe steer any conversations away from those that cause friction.

I think wanting you to have enough money to be secure in your old age is a pretty reasonable concern. What is your plan? Is he perhaps worried about having to support you? There’s a big difference between not being motivated by wealth and not being able to support yourself.