Sooo sad I feel a massive muddle as daughter moved away for good

[Molly333]

Hello
Any advice gratefully received please as I’m a wobbly mess. After being a single mum for 10 years my daughter went to uni and has decided she’s staying there . She’s happy and I’m glad for her but I feel sooo lost . This sounds so stupid as she’s only 2 hours away and I’m at home with my 16 yr old and partner of 4 years but I feel so lost . I’m scared as my son also wants to go away to uni and none of them may come back

I have been where you are and i know it's hard. Be proud you raised a strong independent young woman. Im sure she will always come home xxx

She'll come home again. I'm sure of it. How are you feeling now?

When my daughter said she wasn't sure she could cope living in a different county to me I said to her..if you can't live independently without me then I have failed.. I don't like to fail so don't let that happen...I would be pleased I've done a great job and she can manage independently..she will come and visit you and you will visit her..those times together will be all the more special!

They boomerang backwards and forwards. You think they've gone and boom there they are on the doorstep. Don't worry!

I'm sure she'll come back to visit you several times a year!

I did the same, moved away for uni and never moved back to my hometown- mostly because it's a small horrible run down area with no opportunities or career prospects. I wanted to live somewhere more diverse/progressive.

I still visit my parents 5-6 times a year.

I can relate, I used to visit her then after I drove away I'd pull up and weep buckets
But it's right she will come back but mine is now talking of working abroad and that's my biggest fear as she is all I have, I have no other family. I'm devastated but can't tell her this. I'm back what I was when she's went to uni!

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I told my parents the same, I love my town, and it's great for raising children, safe and a beautiful beach but not many career options. I left home for my gap year, went to uni with no intention of moving home for 10-15yrs if at all then following an unpleastant, bordering on abusive relationship I returned home pregnant and have lived 11 doors away ever since and see my parents everyday.

Everything turned out great and I'm developing a good career. You never know what the future will bring or how it will work out.