Adult children working from home

[HappyHopkins]

I have three adult children. One has gone to university this year. One has just finished university and is working from home and one has moved in with her partner. DD who has moved in with her girlfriend works closer to the family home that where she now lives. Her and her partner now come to my home in a Tuesday evening. While my DD is out at work her girlfriend works from my home. I have my husband, one of my children and my DD girlfriend working from my home.
I work long shifts and will have days off in the week where I do all my housework/ cooking/ relaxing….. I cannot move without tripping over belongings and have to wait for people to finish meetings/ work calls so I can clean.
It’s beyond frustrating but my husband thinks I am being unreasonable and doesn’t want me to say anything for fear of upsetting them. Am I being unreasonable??

Why do they both come to your house on a Tuesday evening ? If they've got their own home surely they don't need to be at your home? Especially if your DD is out working? .

Just toughen up & say it's not convenient- sounds like they are just 'using' your home ... if you want them to visit for a 'sociable evening' just invite them both for a meal ... but not if your DD is working.

This is my issue, my DD is using it because she works closer to the family home so her girlfriend meets her here. They come on a Tuesday evening and leave on a Thursday.
I feel as if I’ve lost my sanctuary.
My husband works from home and has an office so I’m the one tiptoeing around my home on my days off! He doesn’t see a problem and thinks I’m wrong to make them feel uncomfortable.
I have said ‘ I’ve found today really hard, it hasn’t felt like my home with having to work around everyone’ but I’m not getting the message across.

I think you've just got to be tough and say 'it really doesn't work that friend stays here while at you are out at work ... I need the time to be able to relax at home on my days off.

Are they joined at the hip, why can't the girlfriend just work from their own home whilst your DD is at work? It doesn't sound a very healthy relationship. My DH and I have always spent lots of time apart, including in the early days of our relationship, I wouldn't have dreamt of going to his parents house to work / stay if he was out all day.

I think some parents tip toe around their adult DC for fear of a 'falling out' but you shouldn't be made to feel uncomfortable in your own home.