My eldest child came back to live in the family home after living by himself independently for ten years. He had a mental health crisis and I was obviously keen to get him home so he could recover.
The thing is, he's been here since the beginning of the year and I don't think it's helping him. I have given him lots of support, all night chats, taken to doctors appointments, shopping, job interviews, etc etc. He got a diagnosis of ADHD and is on meds and since that happened he almost 'acts up' to it in a way he never did before. He is a bitch to me and a bully to his two much younger siblings that I don't think this is the right environment for him.
He's become de-skilled and his motivation is non existent, he sleeps most of the day then rambles around the house cooking (I cook a family dinner every night which he sneers at before throwing it in the bin) I have lots of things going on at the moment, my relationship is going down the pan, my youngest child's health isn't great and my business is full on and requires me to be there on weekend evenings. I haven't seen my mum in months and yet here's this adult child demanding and depleting my energy. I'm treading on eggshells around him as he's so grumpy. Has anyone been in this situation? Would I be heartless and a bad mother to tell him he needs to move out?