Looking for any guidance really.
DS1 (18) is living with his GF (19).
DS rang tonight to say GF is pregnant. They, I think, expected me to be happy.
GF has LG who is around 18 months. Due to GF's MH she signed a voluntary fostering order (section 21 maybe?) as she'd tried to commit suicide. The plan was that baby would be returned to mum.
It was decided 2 weeks ago by the courts that the baby is going to live with its dad's parents 200 miles away and GF would just have visitation 4 times a year as GF hasn't made improvements with MH etc etc.
Ds1 said that if she got pregnant baby would go into care however, this eve, DS1 has said that he will have to go through a parenting approval thing to show he'd be a fit parent but, in all honesty, he wouldn't.
He left home on his 18th at the end of March and moved straight in with GF (they started dating the day before his birthday) and then didn't go back to college stating his MH was bad so he hasn't completed year 2 at college.
He has had 1 job since leaving college and was sacked on the 2nd week after not turning up for 4 days of the 10. He and GF spend all their UC within the first week or so and are then begging for money (which we won't give them) and the majority of their UC goes on weed.
Gf said social worker will look at family support network but she doesn't really have 1, she grew up in Foster care and was adopted at 8 and then put back into care at 15 and she has limited contact from adoptive parents, which means it will come down to DS's family however I'm not willing to 'lie' nor am I willing to take responsibility for baby living with them.
Does anyone have any ideas of how all this works and the chances of them actually keeping baby?
I couldn't allow our grandchild to go into care without a fight so we'd have to request that we would have PR and it live with us but with 4 kids at home (16, 11, 7 and 2) I'm not sure they'd allow that either?