Anyone else financially struggling with DC home from uni

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Just that really,DC x1 course finished in early may due to covid and they have been home since then. Food bills etc have rocketed

Hi, I pay their university accommodation, do the odd shop, transport to and from at the beginning and of each term

Re the car, conversation has been had, I will not be renewing the insurance when it is due

I’m in the same boat here. Uni student home for holidays for an extended time due to Covid. Food bills are double. He’s not found a job - due to not bothering to look for one. We’ve had words about this but he puts it back on me - I am making him feel bad for not getting work, he doesn’t feel confident enough. I want him to feel comfortable at home and I can afford it but I don’t think he realises I don’t have to be doing this!! His dad, my ex, does not pay a penny towards any of his costs.

50 years I gave my mother 20 pounds a week. Going by inflation 100 per week sounds about right to cover expenses.

I think £50 a week from a full time nmw job is fair plus then any extras re food they can pay for!

@TorringtonDean you have my sympathy.these have been long holidays that are challenging for all parties

I’m not so worried about the costs - although I could spend that money on myself! I am worried about his lack of motivation and apparent lack of understanding/unconcern about the cost of living!

I would give them an itemised breakdown of your food, council tax, utility bills etc and ask them how much they think is reasonable for them to pay.

I think £200 a month is probably about right, or £100 a month if they are saving for a house deposit or similar. In my area a room in a shared house incl bills other than food is around £500 a month.

Yes. My income halved when dd went to uni due to loosing maintenance, tax credits and child benefit. Luckily I could increase my hours at work but I was inly just managing. She helped me by paying for the weekly food shopping every other week.

6 years on she is back home. I earn more now and she pays her way. I'm a lot better off.

It's very hard.

Hang on, if you're paying their accommodation, then they've spent their loan just on living? In that case they should be more than used to having to pay for food etc!

@Polmuggle I know! If the hols had started when they should have done it would have been more bearable. They had their last loan instalment in I think April but it was all gone by may. Ultimately I am really concerned about how they are managing their money...or not. Have tried broaching the subject as non- confrontational as possible but it did not go well