So my daughter is 23, lives at home. When she was 16 she did an apprenticeship and worked like a crazy thing for two years. She then went on to work and was earning and generally moving in the right direction. Since then life has thrown some crap at her (boyfriend break up, job loss) including an horrific sexual assault after a night out that left her nothing short of traumatised. This was three years ago. Since then she has struggled with depression, anxiety, gained weight and had trouble with friends and boyfriends. My heart has broke for her over and over again, I have helped, supported, listened, advised, loved, hugged, guided and encouraged, but over the last few months/year I increasingly feel like I am 'carrying her' and feel exhausted, resentful and anxious. I gave her paid work with me which she does with little enthusiasm and lots of missed shifts and late starts. She doesn't pay towards any rent or bills and I'm a single parent with little money myself. She doesn't lift a finger around the house, is messy and thoughtless, and although she has animals of her own (dogs, a horse) as well as the ones we share she often doesn't pull her weight. I am left nagging and getting cross which I don't want to be doing as she's 23! I know she's had a hard time and I love her to bits but I worry she's regressing and taking the piss a bit. Also my mental health isn't great and im beginning to suffer. I want her to start taking some responsibility, engage with life and stop dumping everything on me but I also feel guilty because of all she's been through.
She is on anti depressants, is in therapy and is generally doing much much better - seeing friends, has a boyfriend and goes out etc. What do you guys think is the way forward?