20yr old

[Monica53]

Hi
Just wondering- our D is 20 and was bullied horribly by her supposedly best friends from early high school, it had an awful affect on her and now she has a very small circle of friends and spends a lot of time at home when not away in University city (4hrs away from home). Also recently her BF decided he only wanted to be friends and pick up relationship after Uni…. However I do think they’ve been having a ‘relationship’ and now he’s told her he doesn’t want to continue after Uni! I’m upset for her and hate seeing her down again! She has managed to get a few jobs for summer break and hope she manages to make contacts and possibly friends through work?. Isn’t it awful seeing your kids whatever age upset and lonely😞

I agree and feel for you. I can not be happy if any of my (now grown up) children are sad xx

@Buzzer3555 it’s awful …. and fact she doesn’t have many friends makes it worse ! Fingers crossed she makes friends at work or eventually at Uni when they get back and manage to have some normality

I think if you can do something to give her a bit of a boost then that would be really good, like get your nails done together or something. Small boosts of the ego are really important when you've felt rejection in early relationships in my experience, and by accident I had a boost after someone broke up with me, receiving and extra expensive item for free by accident soon after being dumped! It was such a minor thing but gave me that feeling of "everything is going to be okay" when you feel like you are at rock bottom and worrying if you are not attractive enough or have a good enough personality etc.

The quicker her confidence recovers the more she will be able to attract new friends into her life, unfortunately if she is sad then this can have a detrimental impact on her making friends because people respond to good vibes only if you understand what I mean.

I really hope she can feel happy again soon!

@RainyDayz9 thank you 😊 yep try to keep busy is good. To top things off she got a call
from Uni and has to resit a year 😕😕😢

Thank you for replies x currently we - well Dd is redecorating her room at home - having a huge declutter and getting rid of most of her clothes (selling some) and selling old furniture and buying preloved items …. think that is keeping her busy? Just makes me so sad when you know she should be out enjoying herself. 😞

My Dd is in the same boat. But she only seems to have one friend and some online friends . She is starting uni soon and I hope she finds like minded friends . I’m very worried about her . I do lots with her but she has low moody days and it’s so hard to get any chat from her . The best thing I feel is to leave her be now . Bad day yesterday but we are heading out this morning for hair appts .