Hi there
My son left school at 18, spent some time travelling with his g/f, and did a bit of waiting on in a local pub. He started uni but dropped out. He’s never been very academic but he didn’t know what else to do.. he then got an apprenticeship and has done that for about 2 years now but hates it. He says he wants to leave but doesn’t do anything to change things. I show him jobs if I see things that might be suitable.. sometimes he applies but I usually have to sit with him to help him with what to put. He never knows how to word letters or emails etc. He’s dyslexic but I know other dyslexic people who are able in that way .. although I know it can affect people in different ways. He’s also had anxiety and depression on and off since the age of 15 / 16. My husband and I have always supported him, encouraged him, always there to talk to and offer advice if needed.
I’ve suggested volunteering to gain experience in another field and to enable him to get a part time job and give him some thinking space as currently he’s up at 530am and doesn’t get home until 6pm. So.. long days especially when he hates his job! Today I sat and went through some volunteering options with him, but everything was ‘boring’ according to him. It made me feel really down to be honest. He’s miserable but won’t consider other options. He’s applied for a couple of shop jobs and one in a garden centre. (His apprenticeship is joinery).
He is a drummer and has been in bands since the age of 13 and always says he wants to be a drummer or a job to do with music. But realistically how likely is that? I don’t want to crush his dreams but I’ve said even people in bands who have ‘made it’ have had to work too! I’m started to feel a bit fed up to be honest and can just see him wasting his life by his complete lack of motivation or desire to change things. He’s having CBT sessions at the moment but seems half hearted about that too.
Anyone else in a similar position..?xx