Think dd’s bf smokes weed - non of my business?

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Just that. I think he occasionally smokes weed but I don’t know the extent of it. Is this such a big deal any more?
He’s a lovely lad, fitness fanatic, has a job, he is intelligent and he and dd are besotted with each other.

I’m a bit of an old fart and had a sheltered life I suppose. Never had any experience with any kind of drugs and don’t know anyone personally that has taken them so I’m a bit shocked tbh.

I am tempted to bring it up with dd (what would I even say?) but I’ve had my fingers burnt in the past and nearly ruined our relationship for good with my interfering. They are both adults so should I just but out?

Advice please.

I don’t know how common this is but I remember when dd was 16 telling me that she knew loads of kids that smoked weed. They didn’t think it was such a big thing. I was shocked as I too hadn’t had any knowledge of drugs and read her the riot act about not doing this herself.

As long as he’s not smoking it in your house? As you say, they are adults so non of your business.

How old OP? I am told by my 22yo DS that EVERYONE smokes weed

Unfortunately I find it unpalatable due to ex partners addiction to the stuff.

If he's a good lad, just leave them to it, hopefully it's just an experimental time, and it'll lose its appeal. Don't fall out with your DD over it, thought it's ok to have your own opinion.

I'm not in the least an old fart, but believe me, I've seen the damage heavy use can cause

I personally don't see the problem with mentioning it. Smoking weed is really common, but I understand it would make you feel worried. As long as you bring it up in a nonjudgemental way it should be fine. If my mums partner smoked weed, I'd want to mention it to her, so it's understandable that you feel how you do!

It’s legal where I live but it does affect employment options.

I don’t know anyone personally that has taken them
I can promise you that you absolutely do. The vast majority of teenagers have smoked weed at some point. Many of them have also taken other drugs, pills etc.
Anyone who says "not my son/ daughter"; well there is a good chance that you're being naive / they're lying to you.

I am wary of smoking weed. I have a number of friends who do. Two have serious related mental heath issues that have been linked to smoking weed. Everyone else has been fine.