I’m really struggling with this. Is it possible this is a hereditary thing, something different about the wiring? I believe she and her dad (my exh) are on the spectrum & he does this too but for different reasons (he does it to make other people look bad).
She’s 26 and she lies. All the time and about all kinds of things. It mostly doesn’t pass the sniff test but sometimes her lies do and then I feel so sorry for her and worry and then it turns out it was all bollocks.
She’ll say she was fired for no reason at all and bullied then it’ll turn out a bunch of new people were laid off due to Covid.
She’ll say she was ever so reasonable and polite about something and then 3 armed security guards chased her out of a public building (I don’t think private security guards are even allowed to be armed in Canada, nvm 3 of them showing up, & if they did would they really chase a small whites woman who was perfectly polite?).
She’ll say she has a sad medical condition but is going to make the best of it and have a full life anyway, then it turns out that was (giving her the benefit of the doubt) a huge exaggeration.
Wtf?! I have one other child who does not do this. Mostly I think she does this for sympathy, to avoid confrontation, and because she likes drama. It’s doing my head in. When she does it to avoid confrontation the potential for confrontation is all in her head as I’m not a confrontational person and also she and her dad have worn me out so nothing they do gets a big reaction from me anyway.
Her younger sibling is exasperated with her as well.
I don’t know if it’s a (very weird) bad habit, personality disorder, or ...? Or how to help her or encourage her to cut it out.
I don’t know how people who lie don’t realise it’s blindingly obvious their stories don’t stack up nor how they have the energy to keep track of their nonsense.
Ideas?