Do you wish you'd had more children?

[Amidone]

I'm 43 and have 2 primary school age children. I've been pondering a 3rd for over 18mths but am scared. I can't work out what I'll regret more.... While trying for a 3rd scares me, I worry I will regret not having, or at least, having tried to have, more children when they're all grown and flown.
Interested in the thoughts of those of you who are further down the line than I am. Thanks

Well it's a very personal choice, I had my last child at 40, he's 11 now and I also have an older teen. That's plenty for me! I've found it harder as they've got older, not in an awful way, but I know two is enough for me. I feel I can spread myself between two, and give them the time and attention. But my friend has 4 daughters aged between 12 and 17 and copes great. How supportive is your partner and wider family, that makes a huge difference too.

I'm 45 with 4 children, 13, 15, 17 and 19. I'm so glad I had 4, they are lovely to spend time with now they are older. It's so much easier than when they were small.

I'm 47 with a 23 and 21 year old. Two was/is perfect for me and I never wanted another.

No! Twins and I was done.

Anyone else?

No, but then I have 3 (adult) dc.

At no point did I ever want a 4th.

I'm 39 and have a 3 year old and a 5 month old. I find it very hard and have next to no support. I won't be having another but often wonder if I started younger if I'd have more. I like the thought that they all stick together and look after one another.

I'm in my 50's and had DD at 26.....never wanted anymore than one and I never changed my mind about that.

Fuck, no.

I'm 42 with one Dd, 19.
I never wanted anymore and I love still being relatively young with a grown up DC.

I always thought I wanted 4. I was a single parent for a while to my eldest, but was broody. Was still predictably broody after my second child, I was worried I'd be one of those people who always wants more. But when I had my third I felt unexpectedly complete. I love babies, and I'm a little jealous of big families, but I really absolutely do not have the patience or coping skills for any more. Two to three for me was a huge stretch. I have a teenager, a junior at primary and a preschooler so I do always feel pulled in different directions as they have different needs, and two have SEN. I think it would be easier if they were closer in age. From my experience I think two close in age sounds great, however, I remember the yearning for more and I'd hate to still live with that. I think for me I had to feel overwhelmed day to day for the broodiness to stop. Whilst it would be nice to have just two close in age, I would also hate to live with being permanently broody or yearning.

Honestly, I'm sure you are well aware of this fact but your chances of conceiving naturally at 43 are quite low anyway. 5-10%? Why not just leave it to nature and see what happens? Stop using contraception but don't seek fertility treatment?