Sanctimonious arseholes

[BrummieMomma]

I saw a post from a new member this morning that I wanted to comment on but has since been deleted.

One member of Mumsnet absolutely clawed into her for being 'very dramatic' as she was missing her estranged daughter desperately.

I'm new here too and won't be posting. I've never read such sanctimonious, holier-than-thou claptrap in all my born days. She came for reassurance, not bitchy judgement. It was only the one member but it was enough to put me off.

No wonder this place gets such a slating. I'll stick to reading the Daily Mail...and that's saying something.

THINK before you type. You have NO idea what people are going through.

BrummieMomma, wasn't that the thread that got deleted because the OP was identified by MN HQ as a known troll?

And for the record, some of the posters who posted in good faith on that thread are probably people who have suffered from parents insisting that it was their duty to stay with them and meet their emotional needs rather than go off and live their own independent lives. That is something that can seriously mess young people up. As parents we have a duty not to let our emotional needs take precedence over our dc's developmental needs.

MN does seem to be particularly harsh to parents with older teens and young adult dc. It seems as soon as they are turned 18 you should cast them adrift. There is little support. It is a downside of the site, well posters, but the good outweighs the bad IMO.

I didn't see the thread in question but there is a very strong feeling on mumsnet that once your children are 18 they can do anything they want and you must have nothing to do with their lives. It's very odd.

I thought that was a troll thread?

N does seem to be particularly harsh to parents with older teens and young adult dc. It seems as soon as they are turned 18 you should cast them adrift.

Letting your children have their own independent lives is hardly the same as casting them adrift.

I love my children, they will always have a home here they can return to.

But seeing that I enjoy my own adult independent life I totally see why they might do the same. I am glad for my dd's happiness and would be very sorry if she thought she had to stay and look after me.

Im new here too and won’t be posting
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