My dad passed away 15 years ago, 4 years ago my mum decided she was ready to take on a new relationship and joined a dating site.... she met a man of a similar age and they met up and went on a date.... I’m guessing she told him she owns her house outright as he texted her the next day suggesting she sell the house and they live off the profit and have many holidays abroad and live a good life and rent a flat somewhere.... My mum was flattered that he had suggested living together and didn’t seam upset that he also suggested selling her home that her and my dad built and spending the money on him!! Straight away this made me dislike him and think he was upto no good..... my mum didn’t sell her house and a family member moved into it and pays her rent for it and will not move out as he will persuade my mum to sell it so he can get the money, it’s down in my mums will that when she passes the house is to be sold and split between her children. My mum moved in with her boyfriend soon after this but they slept in separate rooms and she was often lonely and upset and would text me saying she was in bed watching tv and he was in his rooms watching his tv and this isn’t how she thought life would be. My children would go and visit and sleep over and they came home and said nanas boyfriend had shouted at her and she was crying. I called my mum and she said it was nothing just a disagreement. My mums sister went to visit and stayed for the weekend and she lives far away so when she did visit she would always sleep for a few days (been this way since I was little) I got a phone call off my mum crying saying her boyfriend was hitting her sister. We rushed there in the car and collected my mum and her sister and brought them back to my house and tried to persuade them to call the police but they wouldn’t not. I asked what had happened and it was apparent he had just flipped when they were drunk and began punching her in the face, he was not drunk only my mum and sister, The next day my auntie went home and my mum wouldn’t speak to her boyfriend and stayed at mine for a number of weeks until she got on her feet and could afford a flat somewhere.... she was offered her house back immediately but she said it was too big for her all on her own and she needed somewhere small, after moving into her flat she was happy and settled.... but then she began saying she was meeting up with him just because they had tickets for concerts and other things and didn’t want to waste money by not going!! I said what about what happened with your sister!! She said she doesn’t speak to her now as she blames her for getting drunk and she hit him first! That’s almost certainly not true my auntie is not aggressive at all, so she chose to believe this beast over her own sister, my mum was too drunk to remember. After she had been on a few dates she told me he was moving in with her in her new flat..... she said it was cheaper to live together than alone. He moved In to the one bed flat and my mum ended up sleeping on her sofa and he had the king size bed all to himself. I asked why was she giving up her bed ? She told me he snores and coughed all night and had her awake all night and she was too tired getting up for work in the morning. Next thing they are moving to a 2 bed flat across the road, he gets the big bedroom with the kingsize bed And sky TV and my mum gets the tiny box room with a single bed and a dvd/tv on her wall. My mum came over a few weeks back and it was almost her birthday and he kept saying he was going to be the best birthday yet.... when he left the room she told me she thinks he’s going to ask to marry her but the answer is no! A few days after her birthday she sends me a picture of her ring and asks if I like it? I told her I thought you said you would say no!! She said it’s just a ring not a proper engagement. But she’s telling my sister that they are getting married very soon as they arnt getting any younger..... I went to visit the police for a back ground check, there is nothing on him at all, I do feel my mum is scared of him, he seems very controlling of her, when they visit he decides when it’s time to leave and has a code that when he takes out their dog for a walk and gets back it’s immediately time to go, my mum often brings down her cousin and her cousin also seams scared around him, once we got a take away and he came upto the table and said I’ll have chips and held his plate over the table above the food, I looked at him and he shook the plate Infront of my mums cousins face and she looked terrified and quickly put a lot of chips on his plate! Iv since told my mum to visit on her own so that we can spend time together and my kids can spend time with her alone, she told me he was feeling pushed out and it wasn’t fair on him, so he brought her over sat at the dining table next to her and when I sat down to have a conversation with her he began playing music as loud as he could from his phone, when we tried to talk over the top of the music he began singing as loud as he could, my daughter was in tears that she couldn’t hear her nana who had came to see her for her birthday. It’s almost like he’s trying to push all of her family away, my sister told my mum not to take him to her house so my mum no longer visits her, she doesn’t speak to her own sister anymore because of him hitting her then saying she hit him first she he hit her back! And now he’s trying to annoy me and upset me so I tell my mum not to bring him back so he can say to her that’s not fair on him so she will side with him! So I text her after they left and asked why he sat there blasting his music and singing loudly when we tried to talk and she just said he’s not very good around other people! I’m not sure what’s going on here but I’m very worried about the whole situation! I must add my mum is 63 and he 71, he’s a very large man probs weighing 18-20 stone.... my mum around 8 stone and frail.