Hi peeps
Looking for some advice on what to do.
Long story short.
My son and his girlfriend have been together for the last 10yrs with 2 lovely kids.
For the last 3yrs I have watched my sons life go down hill and we have finally come to blows over his girlfriend.
She has mental health issues which I know is serious but it’s like a get out clause for her to say and do as she likes.
She is very manipulative,possessive and violent at times.
They fight an he has come home on occasions with bruises and scratches.
He has lost yet another job his 4th to be exact from turning up late to work due to her dramas.
Things have finally come to a head this week as I told him some home truths and hurtful things were said on both sides ending up us not talking.
His life is not going to change while he is still with her and she is dragging him down.
I have helped him with his debts,given him money but have found out he has been stealing from shops for her and doing drugs.
Now as a mum I can’t bare to see this happening to him but feel I have lost him now we have argued.
He has changed so much I don’t recognise him anymore to be the lovely lad he was before he met her.
He doesn’t seem to care about his side of the family and says I am a bad mother and grandparent which is heart breaking as I do anything for him.
I feel I have just been used over the years giving him money all the time.
Should I just think ok he’s an adult he has to make his own life choices and let him get on with it?
Should I try and make it up to have contact him though I hate his girlfriend for what she has done?
Opinions would be gratefully received.