Anyone who has thrown adult child out or was thrown out please help

[GettingRopeBurns]

Dd 19 has really been pushing me last few years and I don't know how much more I can take.

Dropped out school, luckily got job, but she's throwing everything away job, friends, health, money and me.

Partying too much, drinking loads, arguing all the time, destroying our home I don't know where my sweet kind sensible girl has gone.

Can't talk to her without getting roared at. Reached final straw this week and told her to leave, I had to get someone else to make her leave.

She keeps asking to get her stuff but she's done that before then when I've let her in she's refused to leave. More arguing. I've let her move back other times when she has promised she will change but it don't happen..

I don't want to make her leave or lose her or have her stuck but I don't know what to do. I don't know how to fix this.

Can anyone help please?

Please be kind as I'm feeling awful about the whole mess.

[theemmadilemma]

I got kicked out at 21, I was off the rails completely. I went to stay with a friend (who unknown to me was speaking with my Mum to let her know I was ok).

I still say to this day it was the best thing she ever did for me. In the end I had to step up and sort things out for myself. Our relationship repaired and eventually grew better. As an adult I respect how difficult it must have been for her, but commend her sticking to her guns.