I'm in my 50s and raised 2 kids by myself from when they were babies. Worked throughout. Now aged 23 and 21. I do it all - shopping, cleaning, gardening, bills etc. Did all their school runs, hospital appointments, homework etc. They went on school foreign holidays, out of school activities ++.
I was recently told I have a potentially life threatening condition and not to lift heavy weights. I asked for help with garden. 21 year old said he'd help but instead went on laptop. I could hear him effing and blinding as he couldn't remember a password. He was throwing my laptop about. He was hung over, burping ++ and stank of alcohol so said 'I'll do it myself' when he eventually came out. He sensed I was annoyed so kept asking 'why are you annoyed'.
I told him I was fine doing it myself and didn't like the smell. When he wouldn't leave, I said 'just piss off'. Then it was 'why, why, why,why,why, but why....'
When I replied ' I don't want my heart to burst open!', he punched holes in a door. He may have taken drugs the night before. He called me - xxcking worse xxnt, what kind of a mum are you for telling me to piss off.
He's done this sort of thing before. There are holes in walls and doors. When I tell him to get a job and move out, he refuses. Still being drunk etc, he then threatened to kill himself if I kicked him out.
I'm trapped.
The evening before, he asked me to drive him to shops 5 miles away so he could exchange a phone. He's too lazy to walk 12 mins to bus stop and won't shut up until I drive him to bus stop. At 4am that morning, he called me to put money in his account so he could get a taxi home. As he had no phone credit, he wouldn't stop calling me (free giffgaff to giffgaff) until I called him a taxi.
I've been also diagnosed with thyroid and parathyroid problems. I've had stress ++ throughout my life and it's getting worse.