I'm increasingly concerned about ds' drinking. He's very bright, very confident and very lippy but drinks to oblivion most weekends (and has got into fights on occasions). He seems happy; has lots of friends both, at home and uni, but they all party relentlessly and can't seem to see each other without drinking to excess. I'm not sure how to approach it effectively because he doesn't think it's a problem. From his point of view, he's doing well and getting good grades so I shouldn't worry. Two years ago, his excuse was: "i'm in my gap year and relaxing' "it's normal..." Last year, his excuse was: "I'm in freshers week...I'm in the first year...everybody does it" This year, he simply denies the issue. Besides his health, I'm worried about his attitude and lack of self care, and the inevitable downwards spiral if he doesn't have a handle on it. I'm also sure this is hiding other problems. I've used other pretexts to suggest counselling but again, he thinks he's fine and doing quite well. I'd love to hear from anyone who's had to talk to grown up kids about this; did it work? where did you get advice, if any? etc.. Big thanks!