I have NC for this, our DD (33) is with her DP and our 3 DGC also 2 dogs. They live in LA home it's very near to her work and the school for the children. (11,10 and 9)
She has lived there nearly 10 years.
The BIG problem is how messy and most times DIRTY the house is and don't ask about the garden. I go every week and help tidy up. Yesterday was to me very disheartening last week I cleaned the bathroom in fact scrubbed is a better word. But I don't think it had so much as a wipe since last Thursday. We have talked about the state of the house and I've offered my help anytime but she says it's ok once a week is enough.
She was brought up in a clean and tidy home so this is alien to me and her dad how she can live like this. I don't want to upset her but how can I tell her about the dirt. I can see past the mess that can be tidied it's just the dirt.
Even the garden is a tip her dad and I spent last summer tidying it up as they both work. All it needs is a mow of the lawn and a quick brush of the path and to pick up the dogs dirt in the back garden (kids all play in the front garden as that is the sunniest and biggest). Again they have said leave it now we will do it from now on.
Am I interfering to much.