5 yo DS constantly overacting - help!

[Boobalina]

I've just taken a call from his school about his over reacting to the smallest of things - somehting breaking, not winning a game, people bumping into him etc.

When DS is a good, he is just terrific - funny, clever, kind, warm but if he gets on one he is angry, resentful, aggressive, uncooperative, rude, and basically really babyish.

We have a reward chart at home, do lots of positive encouragement etc. But its the constant strops when I say its time to turn the TV off, Can you get dressed for School, sorry we cant go to blah blah blah today etc... He freaks out if he cant assemble a toy properly, shoes gone on wrong etc.

I'll be honest, it is really really doing my head in, particulary as DD who is 2 is very mature in comparison most days!

Honestly, my heart just sank when the teacher callled me to see her tomorrow about it all.

I can get VERY frustrated and impatient when I have PMT and am trying out the pill (3 months in now) to see if that helps my grumpy / shouty issues. But sometimes after literally 2 weeks of his behaviour I will loose it and really shout, or manhandle him to the step - occassionally, yes I have smacked his bum or hand.

There are lots of challenging kids in his class and it was quite unsettling for him when he started reception - he went from quite a naturing, family atmosphere quite posh preschool to a salt of the earth, innercity primary school....

Please help!

anyone?

Boobalina you could be writing about my DS2.

We have the drama queen throwing himself to the floor and banging his arms and legs. I tell him it's bed time and he runs in to the garden shouting 'NEVER' in a manic way.

We had an hour and a half tantrum yesterday because DS1 sprayed some water on him, it was a tiny bit of water, but apparently the costume was ruined. I could hear myself shouting FGS it's just WATER!

It's very wearing and I'm not sure if it's tiredness or whether it's because he needs to eat something.

I can't offer you solutions, because DS2 just explodes at the slightest thing as well.

Maybe we can just chat to each other and laugh about it instead?

My 5 year old DS2 is just like this!! He's such a drama queen it's untrue. But it is very wearing and I don't always handle it that well either.

Fortunately, mine is 'angelic' (teacher's word) at school and is doing really well. He saves up his 'special' behaviour for me and DH.

I'm putting it down to overtiredness. He's also in Yr 1 and not 6 till July so is quite little for his year group.

Either that, or he's an obnoxious spoilt brat and it's all my fault.