co-sleepers: how do make private time for you and DH?

[Greythorne]

Hmmmmm, love co-sleeping, get loads of sleep, kids are happy with the sleeping arrangements, all good except one thing: sex life is non-existent.

Last night, in desperation, DH agreed to have a kind of seduction date, put the kids into bed in their own bedroom (as we do every night anyway) and have an early night just for us. But DD aged 3.6 wandered to sleep on her mattress before we had even gone to bed. I told her she had to go to her own room and that she could not stay but to be honest, DD2 (aged 17 months) was already asleep in there and I did not want a wide awake DD1 annoying her, crying, making a nuisance of herself meaning we would have two wide awake kids at midnight.

So, I just gave in, she lay down on her mattress next to our bed and we agreed to wait for another night.

Very frustrated emoticon.

How do other co-sleepers / family bed families manage?

do it on the sofa before going to bed

Traintastic I like your thinking but you clearly don't have a DP like mine. The conditions have to be, ahem, perfect, ie never at our parents' houses (noise!), never if we have friends staying, never if the kids happen to be sleeping lightly.............

Let me tell you, conceiving our two DC was quite a feat of organisation.

Oh God, we bought a new sofa bed for the dining room because dh didn't want to do it on a normal sofa in the living room! Has to be comfy. By the time we've folded the bloody thing out, I am well and truly over the passion and just want to sleep!

The best solution is to both work part time from home and have the kids at school

We co-sleep and there is quite a bit of sofa and living room floor action. When we can we also knock off work early and meet at home for a rare bedroom session. We are also lucky that ds likes to sleep over at his grandparents quite a bit but I appreciate that's not always the case for others.