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suggestions to help my 3 yr old switch off please?

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daysoftheweek · 27/06/2010 23:43

ds is 3.5 and currently his behaviour is making us both pretty unhappy so I'm desperate for any suggestions please.

we aim for bed around 7 but it's usually 7.30/8 once he is aseep he sleeps fine but the real problem is getting him to switch off to go to sleep.

i do the whole meal, bath, story bed thing we often talk about how we (he) is going to bed and will do so calmly and go to sleep quickly etc etc.

he is pretty tired so if i can get him to switch off will often be asleep within 2 minutes but he just wont switch off, we have leaping around the bed, pulling the covers, throwing them on the floor, screaching about the light or who is there or who isn't there, we have getting up to pinch another pillow we have turning and thumping his sibing in the face we basically have anything to avoid sleep so he's knackered as am I but I am also increasingly frustrated.

I have tried just putting him back in bed I've tried bribing, I've tried rewards, I've tried threats.

how can I break this cycle?
he gets loads of exercise (far too much but that's another story) on the school run
we go out to clubs etc, he gets one on one time but would clearly like more but then his favourite activity is to wake his sibling at every opportunity

all/any suggestions desperately received...
thanks

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daysoftheweek · 28/06/2010 00:02

thanks for your kind post
dare I say it was easier when they were little (sorry!)
he was generally good at bedtime but not perfect but now it is dreadful.

no no sugar not even a milk drink it's water only after brushing teeth!

older child is 5 and has no trouble getting to sleep and staying asleep i am frequently trying to feed baby at the same time however bedtime is a battle even when I've finished and they are asleep or awake quietly in another room.

have thought about lavender maybe will try it.

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llareggub · 28/06/2010 00:12

My DS is the same age as yours and he can be a nightmare at bedtime. He gets a major energy burst and sometimes bounces on the bed, off the walls, anything but sleep. I've tried everything too.

Lately, a bedtime massage has helped. He has seen his baby brother having a baby massage so I do a similar thing to him and it calms him down. If he is really bad I let him watch a DVD on a portable player. This makes him physically rest (the hardest part) and when he is calm I go in, do the massage and read a story. We are working towards removing the use of the DVD player and it is very much a rarely used last resort.

llareggub · 28/06/2010 00:13

I like the cup thing. It is probably why the massage thing works.

PotPourri · 28/06/2010 00:17

Love the cup thing. It's a really positive way to look at things. I have been doing this with mine recently when they are being really naughty and it does seem to be working

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Dominique07 · 28/06/2010 00:22

Singing? works with mine...

mjinhiding · 28/06/2010 00:38

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EldonAve · 28/06/2010 16:18

classic fm helps mine drift off

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