distraught 8mo when i leave the room!

[dirtgirlworld]

My 8mo is so sad whenever I leave the room-even if its just to the kitchen!he breaks his heart and it's making life at home really awful! I can't get anything done until he's in bed at 8. At that point I'm so exhausted! It's always been just the two of us really as I'm about an hour away from my family and my DP works nights and sleeps all day.
It's been like this for about a month now. I'm hoping its just a phase or teething? He has no teeth yet. I'm job hunting at the moment as mat leave has just finished, can't imagine what he'd be like at nursery!!
I put him in his walker a lot if I need to get things done but he just follows me around whining! It's getting me down as well as him, and as awful as it sounds-i'm really starting to miss my freedom!

It's just a phase - they all go through it around that age when it suddenly dawns on them that they are separate from you. DS1 did that to me for a few months (even sitting in the buggy facing away from me drove him mad) and it was dreadful - I'd go to the loo for two minutes and he'd act as if I'd gone to Australia for a year. Without leaving a forwarding address.

All I can say is that you need to be patient and get on with what you need to do that involves leaving the room. I ended up carrying DS1 everywhere, which severely limited what I could do, but with DS2 that just wasn't practical, and things became easier more quickly.

It is awful, but it is just a phase!

oh ok thank you. I hope it is just a phase. is driving me mental to be honest!he is clinging to my leg as we speak! :/

Forgot to mention that another thing that causes this is the fact that they get frustrated at not being able to move properly; once your DS is fully mobile and knows that he can comfortably follow you (and get to all the other things that interest him), he will be more relaxed about you 'abandoning' him!

Definitely it's a phase. I remember dreaming whistfully of going to the toilet on my own. I either used to hear cries of extreme distress or used to have to take him in with me, which didn't seem ideal.

Take it as a compliment that he loves you a lot! When he's a teenager he'll won't even want to acknowledge that you are related to him!

ha yes I suppose that's one way of looking at it!!oh well I should get used to him dragging along the floor holding onto my leg then!!hehe

He did the leg thing on the first day of school too.

However, he's going to Uni (grades permitting) in September. First choice Uni is 200 miles away and second choice Uni is 300 miles away. Told you it was a phase.....