Does anyone else lose it with their kids now and then, or is it just me?

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I am pretty worn down with two kids, no support from family, a husband that works long hours and night shifts

Today I lost it with my ds (aged 4) and really shouted at him, told him he was spoilt and threw some cheesy dippers at him. I then phoned husband in tears wracked with guilt and resentment at our families who have nor helped us much since kids were born

I am estranged from my abusive adoptive parents and have no support from any other members of my family. My dh family are lovely and do try but - ah I just can't be bothered explaining, just need to moan

I have hugged my ds, explained as best I can to a four year old that mummy got angry because she was tired etc and not because of him

I resent that because of lack of support I get worn down now and then and the kids suffer. I am not a bad mum generally, they are my life and I give so much to give them the childhood I never had

Don't know what I am trying to say really, I just feel low today and filled with guilt about my angry outbursts

aww don't feel guilty, I reckon 90% of mums lose it occasionally.

Unlike you, I have a great family on both sides and loads of support and I STILL lose it with my kids. I think you're doing fantastically well if you're coping with both kids on your own with no support. Hats off to you!

I think the most important thing is like you've done, sit down and explain to your children that you are sorry and you are tired. Apologies and explanations go a long way. Also, children need to learn that adults can get mad/angry too.

The fact that you feel so guilty shows that you're doing a great job with your kids!

big hug for you!

Thanks 18again - this means so much

You are most certainly not alone! Big hug here too. Now you've apologised, try to put it behind you, as you would if your DS had apologised for undesirable behaviour. Easier said than done I know. This hot weather doesn't help anyone sleep. And make sure you're drinking enough tea/coffee!