First time poster so hope I do this right.
Am getting to the end of my tether with my beautiful, bright, lively but feisty five year old.
She is wearing us down at the moment; she's belligerent, rude and full of backchat. I can?t believe the tone of voice she uses sometimes ? mainly reserved for me and DH (thankfully at the moment, others seem to escape it). I really want to nip this in the bud before she turns into a brat. She's been like this for a good few months, and every time we feel like we're getting somewhere it goes downhill again.
For example, this afternoon she had a friend home from school and it ended up (after a few instances of backchat which I'd pulled her up on) hitting her sister twice, throwing her doll's pram, calling me horrid and blatantly not listening when I asked her to stop. I'm embarrassed to admit I lost it. I ended up manhandling her upstairs (she refused to go when asked)and taking her entire marble jar away. We've only been doing this 2 weeks and it was working last week . As mentioned, I have a younger daughter which, admittedly, makes things a little tricky on playdates as she wants to get involved in everything the older ones do. However, I cannot let DD1 get away this beahviour to ME or her sister.
What exactly do you do / say when your child is rude to you? And, also when they do it when they have friend(s) round? Her poor friend looked terrifed by the end of the episode.
Friends say their children are the same, but I swear DD1 is worse. Hope this makes sense -writing at speed as trying to tidy up before bath, but wanted to post this as I feel so fed up / rubbish at the way she's behaving and I'm handling it (or not).
Any help / ideas / strategies for improving rudeness gratefully received.