2 year old dd walks around in my heels. Let girls be girls?

[poshsinglemum]

I really support the let girl's be girls campaign but dd will root out my high heels and walk around in them when I'm in bed.
Would I be completely irresponsible to buy her some plastic toy heels so as to avoid her trashing my own?

whats she doing up whilst you're in bed??

TBB - that wasn't actually the question and your 'reply' isn't relevant. I don't think it's any of your business, especially as you've shown no interest in the actual point of the thread at all.

OP - dreassing up shoes are great, all kids love them, girls and boys. My 4 year old skitters around in my sandals and he is UberBoy.

Yeah, my 6 year old ds wears my heels and I'm not buying him plastic toy heels! Actually, I'm hoping he likes the sound that the heels make, rather than, err, exploring his female side ...in the meantime, if it's something she wants then I'd just do it. Stereotyping is only a problem if you deny them the opportunity to explore all sides of their personalities.

It is relevant to me colditz. Are you mn police now telling people what they should post and think??? Sorry, I'll post what/how I like.

Op, I would be more worried about her falling/twisting an ankle, and after that would worry about your shoes being trashed. The toy ones from what I remember aren't very realistic. But no harm in dressing up

falling and twisting an ankle? FGS
OP let her wear your shoes if she wants to - it's perfectly normal.

Let her wear them ...its not a big deal really

DD does many things "while I'm in bed" because she likes to get up, go for a morning wee in the ensuite, then potter around the room. I am a few feet away at all times. I suppose if I leapt out of bed the moment she did and followed her around the room I could reduce this gap to a few inches, if that would reassure other posters.

How heely are your heels, OP? If not ridiculous I'd just let her wear yours. It's the you-ness of them that probably appeals to her rather than the heeliness specifically. DS used to shuffle round in my shoes a lot (granted, these have not generally been heels since my feet got wider when pregnant with him and I can no longer find heels to fit). DD actually tends to steal DS's shoes more than mine.

God forbid our children should be out of bed when we are not!

Dd1 & 2 will happily play around the house while I am in bed, if needed. I don't sleep, I just lie there. When I was pregnant I spent a whole day (more or less) in bed (reading & resting) after a PE scare & dd1 (then 4) pottered around the house, in my room, in hers. She got into bed with me & we read/played.

OP, my dd1 (6) LOVES my heels & can walk in them better than I can! She has a pair in her dress up drawer, because I just don't wear them any more. Dd2 loves her sister's shoes & because my heels are in her sister's drawer, she loves those too!

No harm!

haha - my DS3 (just turned 3) loves wearing my boots - most of them are casual flats......but he has a particular passion for my 4inch heeled ones (which I hate not because he's tottering around in heels but because they're my only nice "dressy" boots and they're my Faith ones too >)

Although actually I'd rather he wore those than my precious Timberlands.

ThreeBlondeBoys - why do you automatically assume I'm telling you that you may not post? I said it's not any of your business (it's still not) - never even hinted that you should stop posting.

Are you the parenting police, here to sift through threads and criticise people who aren't parenting in precisely the same way that you would whilst discarding all other information given in the posts?

I assumed the OP is taking all steps to ensure her daughter's safety. You jumped down her throat with an irrelevant and aggressive question, and only since I have mentioned it have you inserted a token comment about the original subject.

I don't think that buying her toy shoes would stop her trying yours on, because I would bet that your shoes are much more exciting/appealing. If you think she will trash your shoes then I'd be inclined just to tell her that she isn't to get them out. I don't think this is to do with her being a girl particularly - boys like to try on their mums clothes too, and wearing big heels is rather like wearing stilts - an interesting challenge.

No problem at all, and great fun

My DDs have plastic toy high heels and they always get played with. Playing at being a grown up is very different from living your life as if you are a grown up, so has nothing to do with the 'let girls be girls' campaign. It's just the same as dressing up as a fireman, or nurse - she's dressing up as a mummy (in her terms of you being a mummy, so that's what mummies look like)

I have a fab photo of DD1 aged about 2 wearing my knee length high heeled boots - they come right up to her bum

We have loads of play shoes here and both DD and DS love them. Don't think gender is even irrelevant at this young age.

My 'just coming up for 2 years old' DS loves handbags, shoes, nail polish, dressing up, climbing anything, cars, bob the builder, tomatoes and dinosaurs.

The thing about toy high heels is that it's yet another example of manufacturers looking at something little boys and girls do quite naturally, which is use their imagination, then presenting the children with the perfect, finished product which takes some of the joy out of 'being just like mummy or daddy by wearing their clothes'. My DD was given a few pairs of plastic high heels as a birthday present and I hate them because they are slippery and dangerous. I'd rather she wore mine - she'd actually be safer and she'd be using her imagination. I have lovely memories of wearing my mum's high heels, standing in front of her dressing table pretending to be a teacher like her.

All three of my sons have at some point wore my heels. They also wear DH's shoes as well. I think they just like to put bigger shoes on and see what it is like.

Nothing wrong in letting her do this. Buy the dressing up ones if you want, they are mega noisy though.

I feel that the let girls be girls campaign is to remove age inappropriate clothing for every day wear. Not for dress up!

Heels are fun! Let her play or get her her own.

I'd pick up some charity shop shoes, wear them on a few token occasions, and then look the other way while she appropriates them. Put your nice ones away out of reach.

I dislike the plastic ones because they seem to bring a lot of heartbreak. If they're not making kids fall over, they're falling apart or losing crucial embelishments.