is it wrong to not include siblings?

[iamreallysilly]

Wasn't sure where to post this, thought 'relationships' but most posts are about couples and this is about friends.
My DS is in same class and good chums with friends DD, they often have 'playdates' etc. Friend also has DS, 1 year older, who is generally bossy and rude to my DS. My DS, not surprisingly, does not want to be friends and only wants to be friends with DD. 'Friend' thinks i am being unkind and 'excluding' her DS. I think my DS is entitled to have some choice in who he wants to be friends with and not have to put up with mean sibling in order to have friendship with other child.
Am i being unfair?

No, you're not.. each child should get to choose their own friends.
Unless they are still toddlers, I think your friend is being a bit silly..

Try saying to your friend that ¨no doubt they will all change over time and this time next year they'll all be best buddies¨. Whether it's true or not..

I really don't like it when I want to spend some time alone with a friend and another friend of theirs tags along! And imagine if that third person were being mean to me!

YANBU - by the time they get to school, it should be up to them who they want to be friends with and invite over.

It's different before school age, as it tends to be your mum friend and all her DC who come over / invite you over.

I suspect the problem is that her DS isn't getting many invitations if he's as rude and bossy to other children as he is to yours. But that's her problem, not yours! You don't have to make your DS suffer when a playdate is meant to be fun.