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Has anyone got experience similar to this and how did it turn out?

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andagain · 09/06/2010 13:59

Hello all,

I would be very grateful if you could share your experience if you had a situation similar to this:

We live in the UK and have one 3 year old DD. I am bilingual (Serbo-Croat/English) and I speak English only to my husband as he doesn't speak any SC. We have been bringing our daughter up bilingual from the start. She started speaking very early and spoke in SC mainly to start with, first because I was on maternity leave so she got mainly SC spoken to her (I still only speak SC to her) and then my mum used to look after her until she was 2. Then at the age of 2, by which time she spoke both languages, but her instinct was to speak SC, we got a nanny whose first language is English so for the last year the only SC my DD has had has been from me.

This has resulted in her understanding everything but speaking almost exclusively English, even to me, even though I speak to her in SC. I often ask her to repeat things in the way that "mama says it" and she does it willingly.

Sorry for the long winded introduction but my question is this:

Our current nanny is leaving and we will get a SC speaking au pair so I am hoping that this will help with my DD speaking the language a bit more.

Has this been experience of any of you? Does it actually come back? Or is it now too late?

I am really worried as would really like our daughter to speak SC as this is part of my (and her) heritage and I generally think that speaking foreign languages is a fantastic thing.

I would be grateful for any of your comments.

Many thanks

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belgo · 09/06/2010 14:04

It's great you are getting a SC au pair. Your dd's SC will come back, especially as you will continue to speak it to her.

We are in the same position with my dc - they initially all started speaking english because I am english, but as soon as they started nursery, the balanced shifted and they became fluent in flemish. DD1 is 6 and is now fairly good at english; dd2 is 4 and is refusing to speak english but she does sometimes without realising.

I'm not worried - I'm glad they are so fluent in flemish because they need it for school and I now one child being brought up to be trilingual who at the age of six has no language that is good enough for school.

As long as you continue speaking SC, your children have regular contact with your parents and you have a SC aupair, I'm sure your dd will start speaking SC.

andagain · 09/06/2010 14:12

Thank you so much belgo. That is very helpful. Does your DD1 speak to you in English or in Flemish? Does your DD2 refuse when you ask her to speak in English?

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Bucharest · 09/06/2010 14:17

I'm sure it will come back, especially if you make sure you really insist on only speaking SC to her, maybe get hold of some dvds, books etc.

I'm in the reverse situation if you like, dd started off with much much more English because she was with me all day, but then started (Italian) nursery and school and now her Italian is ever so slightly better than her English. Coming back to UK for 2 mths though soon, so that will be more or less ironed out by September when we come back here.

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canella · 09/06/2010 14:18

we moved to germany from the Uk last year but before that our 3 dc (they were 7, 4 and 2 at that time) spoke very very little german day to day altho DH spoke half the time to them in german (he found it hard to do the OPOL thing!).

but they spent parts of the summer holidays with their german grandparents and they all in a very short period started speaking german again (much to GP's joy!!).

1 year on they are well on their way to being bilingual!

dont worry about your dd - she's only young and once the au pair is there and she hears more SC she'll be babbling in both in no time!

belgo · 09/06/2010 14:21

dd1 speaks to me in a mixture - straight after school it;s nearly all in flemish but later in the evening it's english.

DD2 can be quite stubborn and I can't make her speak english, so I just encourage her when she speaks english without realising.

andagain · 09/06/2010 14:25

Thank you all so much! Very encouraging. I am very grateful.
PS We have books and DVDs, she has only so far seen Dora the Explorer in SC so thinks that is the way Dora speaks!

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belgo · 09/06/2010 14:49

we have Dora in english and flemish

canella · 11/06/2010 12:14

dora here teaches the kids english!! badly!

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