Had a very interesting convo with my sis. How does your memory of your childhood differ from that of your siblings?

[tightwad]

She was saying all sorts of stuff about my parents that i simply dont remember.

Yet when she says them, i do have a little recolection of other stuff.

She has an ENORMOUS chip on her shoulder about our childhood, i dont have any feelings really.

My other sis and younger brother also recollect allot of stuff that i dont.

We were all there, yet we experienced things very differently. How about you?

I think that is common, eg younger siblings won't be as aware if stuff going on as older ones are.

Both my grandfathers died within a week of each other and it was obv a very difficult time for my parents. Because I was the eldest I probably witnessed/remember more arguments/depressive behaviour, etc than my siblings who are a lot younger.

I also know that my siblings claim to remember various instances of other siblings bring horrible to them that no-one else can recall. I suppose if someone upsets you it is more likely that you will remember it than the person who did it....

We have a very large family (6 siblings) - all close together in age.

I loved my upbringing, loved always having a busy house, and loved all the company and all the fun we all had together, and I will have a large family too because of my wonderful childhood.

My sister who is just 12months older than I am said she hated the fact we always had hand-me-downs, and that everything was always shared etc, and she would never have more than one or two children.

Its strange how two people with the exact same upbringing can perceive it so differently!

hmm, im the eldest. I try to reason that we each have one child, my parents had 4 young children and were very young them selves.
Not excuses but i understand now, i actually get why they were the way they were.

By no means the "favourinte" apparently, according to my siblings, i got the major brunt of the abuse. I just dont rememebr it bieng like that.

I need to sit and have a long conversation with them about it all, although not keen on dragging stuff up.