can anyone help me with information on bullying?

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We have partial care of DP's DN who is currently being bullied. I've looked at his facebook page today and am utterly disgusted at what has been written about him - there are two children who are clearly keeping a campaign going - there are also nuisance calls to the house, pizza deliveries and nasty messages etc.

DN has totally refused to go to school since it happened (they said he pood his pants) so that's one week off, plus half term, and he has no intention of going in this week.

The school say it is for the police to deal with because a) DN has not officially complained to the school about it. He hasn't, but he won't say anything to anyone and b) because it has not happened on school premises.

I have a meeting with teh school tomorrow. Can anyone clarify if they do have an obligation to do something. if I can get DN to give the names (we have them from his fb page) will they have to do something then?

I'm utterly appalled they haven't come down on this like a tonne of bricks quite frankly. So sad for DN who is an orphan and very vulnerable.

i know for a fact that there is such thing as internet abuse, you can report it, the police have to deal with things like that now more than ever.

kids are so cruel and they probably dont think much of it, but you have to put a stop to this before it gets out of control and takes over everything.
i was bullied in school and outside of school, my parents reported it to the teachers but they did absolutley nothing about it, it just got worse and worse, i just couldnt handle going to school, i started to get depressed, i even started to self harm, my life was total hell.
i cant remember exactly when it happened, but i got myself a bit of advice from the good friends i did have, and decided i wasnt going to leave this down to the teachers to resolve and decided to do it myself

i built up all the courage i had and faced them head on, in school, told them i wasnt afraid and that i wasnt going to put up with it anymore. my self asteem went through the roof, adn it eventually stopped, im a much more confident person now, every situation is different obviously but the best thing you can do is keep his chin up, and with the interent stuff and them sending things to the house is too far, i would report it definatly, you wonder what their parents think of them huh?
idiots, hope it gets better x
and btw if names are given yes they definatley have to do somthing, or just tell them if they dont you will be taking it further

Thanks glasgowmandy - I'm so glad your story ended with you building self-esteem, that's exactly how we would like this to end.

To update, I went to the school yesterday and had a long talk with the deputy head and his head of year. THey were really helpful and positive, DN is going to get a 'team around the child' with counselling etc. I printed off the facebook pages and he was as horrified as I was, the boy was dealt with immediately (last night) and has written a note of apology to DN.

DN is now staying with us with his school books and we have agreed he will go back on Monday.

It's hard for children to let the adults take over as they always think it will make everything worse.

aww thats so good to hear!!! so glad for all of you, your lucky you have a good support team there at the school!

i was terrified my mum would make it worse, but just goes to show, us parents can be good at some things!

as for the self esteem, i recon it will make him a far more confident person! learning to deal with things like this at a young age can do amazing things for your confidence!

really glad things are turning around, and good on you for doing so much for him.

let us know how things progress!! take care xx