Please help - all comments gratefully received!
My DH and I are at real loggerheads over our daughter and I would really appreciate some your thoughts!
DD turned 5 in February. Since she was 3 she's been having lessons and swims very well. DH has always been keen (understatement!) for her to learn and at first, she really enjoyed it. However, I feel that his keenness has turned into awful pushiness and she is now going in the other direction. I used to take her swimming once a week for fun after school with a friend but he has now decided to join us on that and this fun session has turned into an extension of her swimming lessons. I just want her to play and have fun.
We've just returned from 2 wks holiday where DD spent everyday swimming in the pool or in the sea snorkelling. She enjoys it and is very good; she can swim at least 25m breast stroke, front crawl etc. However, hubby seems unable to just let her play and is continually using bribes etc to get her to do more. Today was her first swimming lesson after holidays. She is more than capable of being 2 stages up from her class but today she decided she doesn't like swimming any more and totally refused to get in the water. Hubby went mad and is threatening never to take her swimming ever again (a huge over-reaction). Whereas, I think if we just ease off, leave her be, she'll want to do it in her own time. She can swim and that's all I'm worried about. However, he acts as if she's cut off both his legs (sorry - don't know how else to describe it).
Where is the line between encouraging and pushing? Am I too soft or is he too pushy?
Please help!
xx