Thanks for all your help yesterday on my My boys are pissing me off thread. I now need some ideas to get us through this time.

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I am doing a House Rules chart as my kids like charts and I need the visual support. So far I have No hitting, no kicking. I am wondering should I have a chart for consequences and if so what they should be?

Right.

No:

Hitting
Kicking
Spitting at others
Taking each others' toys without asking first
Talking back to you and dh
Running around the living room when you're busy doing something etc(I don't know which behaviours exactly are annoying to you, so you have to fill that up)

Always:

Asking your permission for using computer and watching tv (and you might want to regulate the time sped on that)
Helping out (assign the tasks, be v.specific, setting the table, loading the dishwasher, making their own beds, putting their dirty clothes in the laundry basket etc etc, also 9 yo can do more than the 4 yo ykwim)
Washing their hands, teeth etc without asking(again reasonable to ask of 6 yo and 9yo, but perhaps not of 4 yo)
Doing their homework as soon as they get back from school (after a snack)

Punishment...what I wrote on your other thread wrt the serious stuff, scale down for smaller 'offenses'.

You could, for example, write the punishment for them running around in the evening and refusing to get undressed, washed etc to be, perhaps, early lights out ie no reading in bed or whatever they do before bed?

Ah, yes, of course, no lying. V.important.

Ooh watching this with interest : for my three yr old dd it needs to be 'no screaming'
for six yr old ds 'no taking toys from your classrroom and bringing them home in your pocket claiming xxx gave it to you'

These are great, thank you.

I am going to get this right.

compo, yup, it happened with my ds, too. Very hard sometimes to know whether they are telling the truth or have simply nicked them off school/their friends.