DD (6) really developing a bit of an attitude... think young Tracy Beaker

[notnowbernard]

How do you respond to rudeness in a 6yr old? I mean, I know what to do at the time, but am thinking more long-term... how to stop it developing into a personality trait

And she thinks that by apologising the person she's been rude to will forget it straight away and carry on as normal

Interested in how others deal with it

(Have banned the Beaker, btw)

Anyone?

Or are your 6yo's Perfect Peters?

There's the thing. Our dd is banned from Tracey attitude Beaker, Horrid Henry and Junie B Jones. We found that her whole demeanor changed when she read or watched these (fictional) characters. It seemed to us that she felt the need to adopt the phrases they used. I am not a dumb bunny and nor is DH. On the whole she is now a very loving and lovely little girl, it is evident however that when she becomes nasty and sarky she's either been illcitly viewing or reading La Beaker. We have pointed out that TB isn't a terribly nice girl and Horrid Henry is called that for a reason. We have suggested that she will lose her friends if she insults them. It works. For a while. Good luck

Hmm, interesting...

She's not old enough to read the books. I wonder is the TV that influential? Evidently, yes...

She woke today and came in and apologised for her behaviour last night (so am glad it stayed with her, IYKWIM)

She is ordinarily a lovely little girl (most of the time). She now knows that if she talks to anyone like that again then 'serious' consequences will be actioned (like her friend not being able to come over in half-term etc)

I do think something happens to them when they turn 6, though...

Thanks for the reply, btw

I think it's more picking stuff up from peers rather than tv

my dd comes out with things that I know comes from her friends, especially those friends with older siblings

Wait till she hits 13
Keep on with the sanctions, don't give in.

Feel your pain. My 6 yo has started a "difficult" phase. Demanding things, answering back and arguing about everything. Interested in any helpful suggestions....

Who is Tracy Beaker or the other ones you described?

Eldest is 8 and watches horrible histories, Mythbusters, History of Science, Doctor Who, Bang goes the theory, Stephen Hawkings science programme, Engineering connections etc (all by his choice), reads graphic novels, the young Bond books and Dr Who books.

The younger ones watch Playhouse Disney and Cbeebies. Then we have our shows. Even with the wonders of PVR we haven't enough time for him to watch anything else (7pm bedtime).

Oh and despite that he can be a proper teenager sometimes (often because unlike teenagers he actually DOES know more than most people he talks to... ug)

Tracy Beaker is a character created by Jaqueline Wilson

She's a 10yr old who is in a children's home

It's actually not a bad programme but is clearly meant for an older audience (not my 6yr old, anyway...)

I agree it's peer-related too

I think she's trapped between cute infant-school child and bratty older kid phase... is reassuring to know other 6yr olds are similar

Have told them both Tv is going to be VERY limited this half-term

We banned Angelina Ballerina's show from our house due to her manners if that is in any way similar.

We've seen some of the Disney drama shows at friends houses and have decided them to be piles of poo with bad manners, poor acting and so forth and with the eldest's consultation have decided we aren't watching them, he'd rather we added another sci-fi show anyway... geek (and proud of it, good lad).

Unfortunately for us, DD is a voracious reader of sometimes inappropriate literature. I've had a word with her school librarian and there is a note attatched to her card which stops her taking out certain books. She was using part of her lunch time to go to the library and get the restricted ones out and using the rest of the time to read them. I would much rather she ran around with her friends at break time.