DS (11) going completely the other way

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DS (11) has always been very "individual" geeky, nerdy - whatever you want to call it. He has always had problems with bullying but he seemed to accept it and cope with it well (iyswim!)

Anyway he turned 11 this year and in the past few months he's started gobbing off to "chavs", has become quite violent on a number of occasions (which yes, has discouraged the bullies but still)

Last week a known trouble causer pushed over his little brother so DS1 got into a physical fight with him. This is so unlike him.

And tonight, he punched a kid in the face on the way home from school. I asked why and ds told me he'd started on him and was pushing him around and threatning him so he punched him before HE was hit. But then, I find out DS had actually started an argument in the first place by shouting something at the kid as he walked past.

Thing is, the kid is from a rough family and they know where we live. This could cause us no end of trouble.

Why is he suddenly changing from this quiet, sensible, mature geeky lad to some violence obsessed nutter? I'm worried he will get beaten up.

Maybe its his friends having an influence on him, does he have any new friends he might be trying to impress?

He's decided enough is enough. On the one hand, he'll have an easier time of it, on the other, he needs to learn not to start crap. Never start it but finish it is my motto.

Never a truer word said, I will remember that one junglist.

I think it is that he's had enough. He's never had friends but in the past few months, he's got really close to a young lad from school. He went to Alton Towers with his family, he waits for him at school, they speak on the phone and over the net and I'm so happy for him to have found a like-minded soul. He told me next week during half term he is meeting this boy and two girls at the library for a lifestyle project and the boy is coming here to stay overnight and they're going to cinema! It's so nice to see him have a real friend and I think maybe it's given him the confidence to realise he doesn't have to take shit off people anymore.