I have just made my husband cry

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I don't know what to do, I have been such a bitch for ages now and the last straw is that I've just made my husband cry with him saying that nothing he does isever good enough. We have a 14 month DS who has just reached a stage where he is snatching toys and shoving other kids away from things he wants. I have been so concerned about this behaviour or rather have been so concerned as to whether I should be disciplining him. I'm feeling like I need a break away from the drudge of being a Mum and I treat DH like crap.

How can i address this stress and feel as though I have energy for him?

do you get a break from it?

why don't you go and apologise to your DH and take it from there?

how are you feeling - you say you have been a bitch which implies you know you are behaving in a way which is not good for your relationship but you need to identify why this is

Could you take a break? could you and your DH have a weekend together? It sounds like you both need one.

Don't worry about your DSs behaviour. It's perfectly normal. A stern "no" is enough discipline at that age.

Now go and say sorry to your DH.

Ah just be open, explain the pressure you feel, be honest, tell him you love him and then tell him you need at least one day a month off to go and do whatever you like.

Behaviour wise completely normal I'm afraid, try and chill out about it if you can. I have 2 ds's it really is normal!

Firstly you need to apologise and promise to do something about it.

Then you need to follow through on the doing something about it. Tomorrow.

Call dr and make appt - it sounds like you could be depressed.

Then, if you can afford it, look into marriage counselling through local organisations or relate (some may have reduced fees if you are on a low income).

Have a talk to your dh and tell him how you are feeling - he deserves that. Come up with a plan of action between the two of you - e.g. he will take ds when he comes in from work and let you go for a walk. Come up with strategies for his behaviour together.

Also look at planning date nights - 1 night a week or fortnight. Can be staying in but spending the evening together cooking a decent meal.

The most important thing is to apologise for the way you have treated him, give him an explanation and then do something about it.

you could be me OP ...I have been horrible to DH on and off (also pg though) and do realise my behaviour is out of order in hindsight and apologise to him and explain my feelings. Maybe you can do the same? They don't always understand why we act the way we do.

Hope things get easier for you.

apologise to dh you need his support too.dont be so harsh on him.shame you feel under pressure.can you go get some time for yourself?haircut,swim, shopping

Try and see the funny side of your DS's behaviour - no need for discipline, distraction works best at this age, when they're just testing things out.
Doesn't mean he'll grow up delinquent!

You sound a bit depressed - lashing out can be a sign of this, as well as generally feeling low and fed up.
Parenthood does go on for a very long time so it's worth getting all the help you can during the most tiring time.
And if your DH has got to the stage of crying you might both be in a downward spiral but it doesn't have to be that way.

Book an appointment with your GP and tell them how you've been feeling.

Show him this. It's all perfectly normal. It will ge tbetter.