Tell me not to get broody again...

[Butterpie]

I have 2 lovely children, the youngest is six months old and I still am in pain from her pregnancy and birth, we are poor, we have a small house, i have HORRIBLE pregnancies that I hate, I have been told I would be crippled with SPD and in a wheelchair, I have been told I am at super high risk of my c-section scar rupturing, I spend the entire pregnancy vomiting, I really really can't have more kids.

...BUT I WANT MORE!!!!! Eek. It has just occurred to me that is what I actually really want. I love the idea of a big family. Not massively big (my mums cousin has just had her 14th, I'd say that is too many), maybe four?

How do I stop this feeling, as it will only lead to heartache. I can't have more babies. I could, technically, but it would be so risky and painful and not fair on my first two.

I guess it makes itt harder when your told you shouldn't have another baby. Makes you want it even more!
Maybe try and keep in mind that it really would be tough on your existing two.
And there will be other babies in your life. They won't be yours but you'll be able to give lots of cuddles and love to them.
Keep focussed on the two you have and hopefully you can come to terms with the fact that they'll be your pride and joy and thats it.

aww, that must be really hard for you

would you consider adopting or fostering? i'd love to think i could do that in the future. we can't now as we don't have enough bedrooms, but it's def something i think about a lot

it's just hormones, wait til your youngest is three and then you will be SO glad that the nappies and chopped up food and beakers and tantrums and montessori fees are all BEHIND you. I couldn't be happier my 2 kids are past all that. I'm looking forward to a few good day trips this summer holiday. I can leave them alone while I have a shower. They eat what I eat, they're in school every day til 3 ish.

why would anybody sane have a baby!? I told my friend I'd dump her if she had another.

at your situation, but don't let these feeling stop you enjoying what you have. I always wanted three children, but for various reasons, this wasn't possible. I'm very happy to have stopped at two (most of the time).

You are still young , medical practices might change in a few years and make it possible. [hopeful emoticon]

Remember that you are going through a bit of a baby honeymoon period at the moment. Come back when you are in the middle of teething, tantrums or squabbling children and tell me you really want another!

I'm not sure we would be allowed as I have a history of mental health problems, plus we rent a small house. Although I suppose we could always try to get a bigger house...

I need to find one of those days when they have both been whinging, I'm in pain, DP is being annoying, we are skint, everyone is tired and grumpy, and record myself a message.

Although, tbh I have a video of myself heavily pregnant, with crutches, and that doesn't stop me...

Adoption though...more children but without the horror of pregnancy and childbirth...that could be something to look into in a few years...I might see if we would even be considered.