constant high pitched screaming in 3 yo DS2

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Help us. Witts End passes a long time ago.

DS2 aged 3 is so loud and just screams and screams when anything and everything does not go his own way, from which cereal box his near him to who gets in the car first (him and older DS1 aged 8), take this morning up since 5am screaming screaming about his Lego not working, the TV not being on, me having a poo etc etc.

You get this picture.

What on earth can we do? DS1 wants to go live with his Grandma me and DH stressed and seem to have a headache all the time.

We use time out - he claps. Ignore him - he just goes on and on and eventually stops after 45 mins or so, but the next time it just starts all over again. I wear wax earplugs which take the edge of!

He is so loud and so hign pitched it literally hurts my ears and I am not being OTT or dramatic, it hurts my ears. Left the house last night to eat a Happy Meal in the car in peace and quiet - how nuts is that?

Any other ideas? Gaffa tape etc

I feel your pain. The 3 year olds I know I have particular knack for irritatingly high-pitching screeching. No suggestions, I'm afraid. I tend to tune out the worst of it and ignore, ignore, ignore.

For my DS, it worked if I stayed calm and said repeatedly until he listened "I don't want to talk to you when you scream/cry like that. He felt put out that I didn't want to talk to him and stopped and talked to me calmy. I think at 3, they know right from wrong, albeit it a simple way. Then when he's not screaming, have a chat with him and explain that if he continues doing it, he won't do (add your own consequence).

He needs to see that its not working (obvious I know) but maybe also that it upsets you. I can only think of two things - if ds(2) does things that are 'mean' not sharing with me or something I pretend to be upset (visible sad face) and he reacts to that. (Often by laughing, but also by trying to make me feel happy) - could you visibly loook upset by the noise? Or, alternatively, tell him simply that the noise is too loud to be around peoples' ears and put him in his room/ playroom/ whereevr.