how do I get my teenager to accept my partner?

[Morgin]

I am divorced and my partner was partly the cause. How can I help my two teenagers learn to accept him?

Take it very slowly. See them without him to start with. It isn't anything you can rush-settle in for the long term.

morgin gal trust me on this 1 sometimes teenagers can be difficult (trust me i got loads lol!!!) spesh if there a new man in their mum life! time is a healer though and spesh as they get older they will be more understanding!

Janet xxxxxxxx

can i suggest you dont allow him to:
on the 3rd time he meets them tell your children how much he hates them and why
Not allow your children near you on your birthday
Dont let him ban you from seeing your children
OR Refuse to visit your children in hospital should they become critically ill for a whole week (due to not liking hospitals) (Oh yes Drs expected me to die... and did they visit? NO!!!!! )
Not allow your new partner to stalk your old partners family
DO allow your real children to be part of your wedding, and allowed to sit on top table, where as HIS god kids have to sit as they are "so important" and your real children dont fit on top table
Oh and then make sure he doesnt beat up / violently assault / strangle your children...

ALL of which my vile stepdad did to me.

Thank god my mother has FINALLY seen the light and is divorcing him... (which is clearly MY fault )

But im sure i might have had a better relationship with my step dad if he hadnt dictated ALL of the above, and my mum (a sheep) went along with it so as to not upset him.

Just to add, the police delt with my step dad and he now has violence on his criminal record (which is my fault as i CHOSE to go to the police which was not necessary as he had said sorry)

Sorry just thought id add what NOT to do based on my relationship with the person who stole my mum when i was 15 years old!

can i suggest you dont allow him to:
on the 3rd time he meets them tell your children how much he hates them and why
Not allow your children near you on your birthday
Dont let him ban you from seeing your children
OR Refuse to visit your children in hospital should they become critically ill for a whole week (due to not liking hospitals) (Oh yes Drs expected me to die... and did they visit? NO!!!!! )
Not allow your new partner to stalk your old partners family
DO allow your real children to be part of your wedding, and allowed to sit on top table, where as HIS god kids have to sit as they are "so important" and your real children dont fit on top table
Oh and then make sure he doesnt beat up / violently assault / strangle your children...

ALL of which my vile stepdad did to me.

Thank god my mother has FINALLY seen the light and is divorcing him... (which is clearly MY fault )

But im sure i might have had a better relationship with my step dad if he hadnt dictated ALL of the above, and my mum (a sheep) went along with it so as to not upset him.

Just to add, the police delt with my step dad and he now has violence on his criminal record (which is my fault as i CHOSE to go to the police which was not necessary as he had said sorry)

Sorry just thought id add what NOT to do based on my relationship with the person who stole my mum when i was 15 years old!

sorry, not sure why that double posted

nannyl it sound like you been through a lot, your an inspiration. its always hard when there a new partner but hopefully my babe morgin has a good man! Morgin i hope you love your man and he is good to you1

JANET XXX