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help needig with 3 year olds outbursts

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molk · 05/05/2010 12:12

my recently turned 3 year old dd is driving me mad with her completely over the top reaction to things that don't go her way. At the moment she reacts to every thing from not getting the right coloured spoon to not being first when running a race with her brother. I am very patient normally but am now at the end of my tether and even cried last night! What do you think is the best way to handle these outbursts which involve extreme screaming, tears etc. and are difficult to calm?

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Gloria42 · 05/05/2010 12:15

I'll be watching this with interest as my DS (3.4) is the same. It can be the slightest thing that sets him off.
Generally I just try to wait it out, he gets so upset it's no longer about the original thing that annoyed him (IYSWIM) and I can't begin to reason with him. Not much help though

SoTiredOfTheWheelsOnTheBus · 05/05/2010 12:24

I'm also in the same boat. DS is (only just) 3 and had a major strop the other day (yelling, crying) because we wanted him to go in the house through the back door and not the front. Seeing as we were in the back garden at the time, what he wanted was a physical impossibility, but 3 year olds don't get that! Any words of wisdom for us all?

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molk · 05/05/2010 12:24

Great to hear from you. Just seen a friend with slightly older daughter and she was givig my ds lots of dispairing looks. You know when you are made to feel there is something wrong with your child.

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giveitago · 05/05/2010 12:26

My ds is coming out of the stage slowly.

Where he was being unreasonable (ie colour of spoon) I'd try to ignore but if his reaction was to shout or scream or tell me something horrible I remained calm and just said come talk to me when you've calmed down - (it could take a while) and he'd eventually come over and talk and I would generally expect an apology. Then we'd sort it out -with spoon I'd just say that's the spoon you've got - you can other spoon another day etc.

But with consistency I'd have him come over and apologise by himself and also he did say that one minute he's happy, the next he's sad and he couldn't understand why.

Boy - it's tedious though! I'm hoping the last bit will stop when he starts school.

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