DD just won't listen

[lostthewill]

DD 2yrs 10months has now decided she just will not listen to a word I say. I end up constantly repeating myself and then yelling out of frustration, she'll then listen. Is it too young to try a reward chart for good behaviour? or can anyone think of a punishment/deterrent for bad behaviour apart from the naughty corner that I can try?

Arghhhhhhhhh

Thanks

Hi I have a dd about the same age. She LOVES a sticker chart - it really motivates her to eat her dinner/stay in bed etc etc. So much so that when I forget to do one (quite often) she is keen to remind me about it. Definately worth a try. We do 10 stickers = a reward.

If she is naughty then our dd is put in her room for a few minutes with the door shut - she HATES it.

Also talking to her on her level works, not yelling from the other side of the room - apols if obvious.

I do think that at her age they totally 'get' reward systems. And at least my dd responds well.

They are enormously frustrating at times, I do just think you've gotta plug away though.

My dd never did respond well to reward systems, simply because when she got angry she cared more about getting her frustrations out than about any treat I was in a position to buy her (would have had to be a pretty humungous treat for her to forego the pleasure of telling me what she thought of me).

I found when she was 2, most of the time I didn't have to hang around and wait until she decided to listen to me: if she didn't comply I would pick her up an take her wherever we were going, stick her in the buggy, take the vase away from her, remove her from the party. Eventually, she got the idea that there isn't much point in struggling, because Mummy gets her way anyway. I tried to stay very calm and brisk, which I think reinforced the message.

Cory that made me laugh. Will definitely try that approach.

Claudia thank you for your advice she does respond well to the idea of rewards, I just hadn't linked it together with the reward chart so I will hunt one down and give it a go.

Thank you both for your advice

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I tell my DS that I am going to count to 3 & if they are still doing/not doing whatever it is they will get sent to bedroom. Usually by the time I get to 2 he has listened!

Try a playful way of getting her co-operation. Some DCs respond to being "challenged" to do something (like a race, or being timed). Some respond to a bit of reverse psychology - tell them NOT to do something.

Bottom line is that you need to feel a sense that what you say ultimately goes, but pick your battles and try and make the process more pleasant

Reading Playful Parenting , by Lawrence Cohen was an eye-opener for me.

Also remember it's not personal. It's what toddlers need to do to develop boundaries and self-control

Yes, I find counting down from 5 to 1 really works well, as ohnelly says. I don't even need a sanction usually, they just find the counting is a kick up the bum

DD 2yrs 10months

That is the answer. Chill. Do wot Jamie says.

lol

Thank you everyone. Yes I agree I do need to chill more but some days ARGGGGG. Thankfully we're having a good week and the reward chart is working really well.

ha ha ha - I use the counting down method on my secondary school pupils - still works a treat on most!