DS 5 asked to a playdate after school-OK to go?

[usuallyalurker]

My DS is in reception and loves school. Has lots of friends in his class, a few boys in particular he talks about all the time. He has been asking if one boy can come to play at our house for ages. I don't know his parents, mom doesn't really speak to any others in the playground and I have said hi a couple of times and she does not always acknowledge me. Fine, I think, no problem. She asked me last week if DS can go to their house one night after school as her DS has been asking if my DS can go and play. I say that's fine, and we have yet to make arrangements. My DS is very excited. I think I just need re-assurance that he'll be fine, this is the start of him making friends etc, but I just feel a bit weird that he is going to someone's house who I don't know.
It's OK isn't it. Should only be for 1.5 hrs approx?

perhaps she's shy?

I'd say let him go. I mean, trust your instincts and if you feel that's something not right about her then obv not, but like I say, perhaps she's shy or socially awkward or something.

Make sure you have her phone number, you'll need to chat with her to arrange it, and again when you pick him up to see how it went, and to arrange a return visit, and when she picks him up from that....

So it might actually make you a friend (if shyness is her problem)

and if, after all this, she still blanks you or seems funny, then you can reassess, can't you?

Assuming of course, that her son is a nice little thing and you've no concerns about her as such?

Thanks JMTPW, I will need to talk to her, so we will exchange numbers etc then, and her DS seems fine, so will retrun the invite here. I think it just feels odd because She doesn't really speak. I'm not friends with any of the mums at school but most people say Hi and pass the time of day, but not her. Maybe she is just shy, I'll do what you advise and let him go. Thanks for the reply.

I don't really speak to people. It's not that I'm horrible, it's just that I don't know what to say. I can't make small talk (verbally! no problems on here - perhaps I should start carrying round a laptop and type to everyone )

Some people find it really hard. I would love friends but I can barely look people in the eye, much less think of a conversation to have with them! - am working on it though, under my husband's careful tuition.

Point is, she might, underneath, by dying to make a mate.

Maybe not. But there's only one way to find out.

It'll be fine. He'll have a great time.