so, what discipline methods do you use?

[grumpypants]

just curious, and maybe learn something new. FWIW I don't smack or use physical methods unless essential (small ds in path of car for example). But, the naughty step never works for us. Sending them to their rooms is pointless unless I was going to empty it first of all the lovely stuff! Personally I find that they are all charming and perfect with a bit of chatting and pointing in the right direction, or punishment fitting crime - tidying up a mess/ cleaning crayon off wall/ etc. I don't object to other people smacking. My main one is when I'm in a shop and they run riot - it's hard to keep them entertained because at some point I have to interact with the staff!

We tried to start the naughty step but DD thinks it's really funny and asks to go on it.

Am lost and likely to be raising an ASBO child.

• ds 3 doesn't take it very seriously either. have pretty much given up on it.

i run out of the room crying then shut myself it the bedroom

That's a great idea! I shall grab the paper on the way!

tell them what you WANT them to do and maybe give them specific things to do (so in the shop, can you find the broccoli, etc).

dd likes 'naughty step'. I don't really do it though I do send dd 'over THERE!' if I am cross. So basically, away from me. I then go and talk to her in a minute. So kind of naughty step/time out idea.

1. positivity
2. distraction
3. warning
4. consequence (small, immediate)
5. FOLLOW THROUGH CONSEQUENCE

I found counting slowly and firmly to 3 ridiculously effective when I really wanted my small children to do/stop doing something. I picked it up from another mother, who when I asked her what she would do if they hadn't done what they were supposed to by '3' replied 'No idea!'.

I never found out either, though I sometimes had to hover around 2 3/4 for some time.

sorry, not clear. I meant the one time I did naughty step, she started playing the game . Not for us.

Goingspare - we do that too! Counting to 3 works a charm for us as well as distraction LOOK THERE'S THE EASTER BUNNY...

I bet you all did look didn't you?

How old?

I have a dd who is 4 in a couple of weeks and a just turned 2 ds.

We have a naughty step, ds will take himself there after hitting dd at times, crying at his bad behaviour but is effective for him. DD now appears to be too old.

DD has things confiscated and has to earn them back.

I do counting.

A bit of shouting especially when i'm getting frantic about leaving the house.

I always follow through with CONSEQUENCES. Dh is a bit more lax.

Oh and i also say "That is not acceptable" after finding out that is what dds preschool teachers say and it is very effective!

Ooh we nicked 'put your listening ears on' from nursery. Dd says 'click' and she listens

That's a point littleducks - the 4 yo doesn't respond to the naughty step, plus it seems a bit unnatural. I do try to follw through with consequences (even if it makes me sad!) so I never threaten something i couldn't do. Love Adair's ears . Gfat and Going - counting good. Suspect if i pointed out a non-existant Easter Bunny they would be v cross....

I mean non existant as in not there right now, not as in doesn't exist

no, you don't have to lie - you can do LOOK THERE'S A FUNNY CLOUD!! LOOK.

actually, think my kids are easily pleased .

wish mine were - the smallest one is (Look! Grass!) the olderst one - no hope. Look! There's ZAC EFRON!....

My dh always says 'I say look at that squirrel!'to dgc and it works-by the time they have looked,followed the pointing finger etc[often claiming to see said squirrel standing on its head or whatever]they have usually forgotten to play up.It even works in shops[maximum age 5ish].

Thumbscrews

I'm trying to teach my ds1 a time out spot. Somewhere for him to go when he's getting a bit frustrated.
I also tell him if he hits or pushes then he will have to go and sit in time out.
He is only 2.8yrs though.