please give your opinions on what we should do next.

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We are reaching a dead end with the doctors on what they think is wrong with my DD2.
I'm just looking for any clues on what you guys think she might have so we can get the doctors to look at different areas.

My daughter is 11 months and currently fighting chest infections after chest infections, quite often ending up as pneumonia. She hasn't put on weight in the last 3 1/2 months and isn't eating well (i.e. still at the very start of weaning)
she has been assessed as having early signs of developmental delay, she has only recently been able to sit for short periods of time unaided, doesn't like eye contact or noises, doesn't babble, doesn't roll over, she seems locked in her own little world, she's quite happy on her own but doesn't interact with toys.

she has been given lots of blood tests etc and her actual brain activity is good, but all doctors seem to say is lets see what the future brings.

we are getting quite desperate because I would like to know how to help her and know what to expect in the future. Also we avoid friends and family because they seem to think because she hasn't got a diagnosis she should be developing normally. we avoid going out all together because we get strange looks from people expecting a smile from her or a reaction, I think they think we have drugged her.

doctors have practically abandoned her until further assessment when she's 18 months.

if anyone has any clues please?

(this it also posted in chat and special needs)

I don't have any suggestions about what may be wrong but repeated pneumonia is probably taking it's toll. 11 months is still early developmentally and while everyone has their own opinions on what babies should do when, perfect strangers should bug off!! I used to say - "he doesn't smile for just anyone you know, you have to work for it!" when my grumpy little soul didn't perform on demand!

Re illnesses, I'm not suggesting you abandon conventional medicine but maybe you could see a Homeopath who might be able to break the cycle? We used to take our DS to the GP, get prescriptions so we had them if we needed them and tried Homeopathy first if things were in the early stages and not too extreme. Also worth starting if she is between bouts. I know it's had bad press but homeopathy has worked for us in loads of situations. Hopefully if you get her well, things will improve in other areas.