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ok how would you handle this?

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bumbly · 14/04/2010 15:16

runy pooh coming out of nappy

but little one 2 3/4 screams and yells and runs away at suggestion of chaning it and then returning to play

again cfries as i rpomise play will be resumed once changed

how would you handle?

i stay calm and thensuddenly lose it as he throws himself on floor and then pooh does eek out and then we need ot bath etc...

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deaddei · 14/04/2010 21:49

(go and have a glass of wine mumofmonsters)

bosch · 14/04/2010 21:49

bumbly - if you think that he is distressed because his runny poo is diarrhoea (sp?) and is hurting him then I have enormous sympathy for you both. But his runny poo will hurt him more than changing his nappy. Does he have bad nappy rash, have you considered whether you can use different products to help with that (MN or pharmacist will help with a direct question about that! Personally I thought metanium nappy cream a gift from god...)

Will he respond to bribery? When potty training ds's, i gave them a choc button for every time they sat on potty for a wee or poo. If you think your ds has a bug, can you offer him a bribe (sweetie, tv, whatever?) to make sure he lets you change and clean him up properly. Probably not top quality parenting, but if it works I do it.

scottishmummy · 14/04/2010 21:50

clean your child asap after pooping.maintain skin integrity and his comfort

potty train when he is ready

and dont SHOUT

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JoeyBettany · 14/04/2010 21:56

A very firm 'Lie Still' combined with gritted teeth and a basilisk stare works well with dd (14 months) when she attempted a few wriggling tricks a while back.

GFatemybaby · 14/04/2010 21:58

Think OP has flounced after shouting and being shouted at.

MerlinsBeard · 14/04/2010 22:06

lol deaddei

Nemofish · 14/04/2010 22:41

Ooops.

I was concerned at first that OP might not be as she seemed, but I think maybe she just needed a bit more help than I could advise her on.

AnyFucker · 14/04/2010 22:47

I know nemo

did you do an advanced search ?

Nemofish · 14/04/2010 23:06

No AF just looked at the list of postings on her profile page.

I tried really hard to be neutral but I think she got upset. In anycase at least her profile photo can't be misused or lifted now.

AnyFucker · 14/04/2010 23:10

oh well, perhaps I am just nosy, but it was illuminating

Jane054848 · 15/04/2010 15:32

Wow. I have just joined mumsnet. I did consider whether I wanted to, since I had read a lot of negative stuff about people being attacked and shat on when they asked a perfectly simple question. Eg "Bullies hide behind mumsnet's skirts" in the Times. Totally see what they are going on about now. That poor woman asked a perfectly sensible question about dealing with annoying tantrums every day and gets called an incompetent mother, weirdo and (impliedly) defecation pervert/paedophile.

If you don't have anything helpful to say - why say anything at all? What do you (obviously I am not addressing people who DID offer helpful advice) get out of micro-analysing someone's motivations in making postings? Do you just not care how much you hurt someone's feelings and dent their already fragile confidence?

Right, now you can all lay into me! Have fun!

Nemofish · 15/04/2010 17:04

Don't want to lay into you at all Jane. If you search my posts you will see that I am just about as far from a bully as it's possible to get!

Mumsnet has been targetted by some real sickos, posting about issues to do with children and urine / poo / nappies etc, for kicks. A quick look at the OP's other posts revealed that most, though not all, of her posts were to do with the same subjects. Added to this were her profile photos, nothing wrong with them as such, but one of her young child, back to the camera, unclothed with bottom showing, did concern me. Everyone should be aware of the potential for photos of children like this to be misused by very unpleasant people, if they post them on the internet.

I totally take the OPs explanation that these photos were connected with an unexplained rash (which was visible on the photo) however I did feel that she needed to be warned about the impression that other people may have got of her - as I did - that she might not be as she seemed, iyswim.

OP did recieve some good advice. OP is hopefully now more aware that publishing nude pics of your children on the internet is not a very good idea, for any number of reasons.

And just as background, a few years ago I discovered that the man who had been 'best man' at my wedding was in fact a paedophile, with an interest in very violent child pornography from the net. Let's just say I try to be more cautious and aware since that experience.

I wish the OP every luck with getting the help that she needs.

AnyFucker · 15/04/2010 18:53

< ignores jane and leaves it to nemo >

Nemofish · 15/04/2010 20:25

S'okay AF, if anyone gets ruff I know Karr-rar-tayy!

Jane054848 · 16/04/2010 10:59

Hmm, yes, I wasn't actually talking about you Nemofish, I can see you were being nice & helpful. The OP did get some helpful advice, but she also got a lot of unwarranted abuse and sarcasm along the incompetent mother/weirdo lines. I'm sure a small percentage of people who post are trolls/perverts/weirdoes, but why not work on the assumption that most people are not? The OP needed some help and is now likely to feel that mumsnet is not the place to ask for it - because you risk being trashed for no apparent reason.

oliviacrumble · 16/04/2010 14:24

Well I don't think it has put her off at all, as she subsequently posted another query regarding her child having a tendancy to fall down stairs.

I think the advice given was to use a stairs-gate or accompany him herself on the stairs...

AnyFucker · 16/04/2010 14:34

it's not rocket science really, is it ?

Kathyjelly · 16/04/2010 14:35

Put whinging child on changing mat, provide them with any handy toy-like thing to distract them,(this morning it was a paint roller), change nappy.

In my house, nappy changing only involves a bath if poo is under their finger nails or in their hair.

flootshoot · 16/04/2010 19:29

Why is the OP getting such a pasting? As a newish parent myself it's the sort of thing I'd ask about, dealing with difficult behaviour is always going to be new to someone who hasn't done it before surely?

Genuinely curious as it didn't think it was that odd a thing to ask about, but then I haven't looked into her history.

FWIW my 1 year old is very wriggly and the only thing the distracts him long enough to change his nappy is contraband (i.e. my phone/wallet/keys/something else he isn't usually allowed to play with!).

deaddei · 16/04/2010 21:20

Quite frankly, if poo is coming out of a nappy it's not very nice for child, environment or anyone!
At nearly 3, he's old enough to understand what NO means and needs firmly being pinned down to change.
What's the alternative?

JoeyBettany · 17/04/2010 11:07

Ridiculous anyway. At the risk of sounding like my mum, he should be potty trained Now.

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