Permanently crying baby (nearly8 month) help!!!

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I have 4 children, 3 amazing dd 10,7 and 4 and a beautiful ds 8 months, however no matter what I do he permanently cries unless he's attached to my hip/lap. He's my 1st child that I have successfully breast fed and he spends most days alone with me. He has 6 teeth and more still coming through and I get that teething is a bugger but I just want to go to the loo without having him hysterical the whole time! Does anyone have any ideas of what I can do to ease his anguish and give me back my sanity??

How about a comforter? DD (also 8 months) loves hers.

She went thru a stage of wanting to be carried and with me everywhere. It eased once she sat by herself at 5 months and then preferred to play rather than being on me.

I breastfed her till 6months and she has a dummy at sleeptime for comfort.

She has two cloth comforters which are essential for sleep times. And she has recently taken to wanting them outside of sleep times. She also has a bee (a small fabric thing which came with her playarch) and she loves it.

She likes to hold on to this bee and there are big smiles everytime she picks it up.

I've noticed she picks it up and holds it close when anyone come to the house.

I think she uses these objects for comfort. Perhaps you DS would like something to comfort with too so he doesn't feel like he needs to have constant physical contact.

If you're still breastfeeding perhaps thats another reason he clings to you so much. Once I weaned DD off the boob, she started to enjoy the company of others so much more and mummy wasn't so important. While I Bf'd she struggled to spend more than an hour with DH before wanting mummy again. Whilst its really sweet to be so popular (DD is my first and if I had 4 I'm sure it would have worn off quicker ) it did drive me a little nuts after 6 months.

Hope you can use some of the above. And hope you get to pee in peace really soon.
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Thanks for your ideas, been trying to get him to have a dummy for 7months he's just not interested and he just throws all his toys, tried sleeping with 1 for a week before giving it to him in the vain attempt to get him attached to it!!! I think you maybe right about giving up the breastfeeding though, he seems to faff more these days anyway. But he will go to my partner, but he works long days so not always helpful lol. Thank you again for your response I think I'll try again with your suggestions anything is worth a try!!!

It's a classic age for separation anxiety and unfortunately there's not a lot you can do as it's soooo draining! I agree with the comfort things but would hold off with a dummy the last thing you want to do is start him with one now and then have to wean him off it in a few months which would be hell (unless you don't mind a toddler with a dummy, I personally couldn't stand it).

Is he like this when you're not around? Or just when he knows you're there?

I've never not been around him since the day he was born, I keep saying I need time off but with 4 kids a partner at work all day and I work from home 6 evenings a week not that easy. Not the greatest fan of dummy's but have experienced the peace they can bring with dd 2 and 3. How long does the separation anxiety usually last? Never had it with dd so new to me!

Hate to tell you this but can last a few months!! Will go away by 1 though. Likely to get it again when he's 18 months old so be prepared!

Some time away from you will really really help both of you and also getting used to someone else feeding him.

Now the evenings are lighter could you take your dds out on the eve you don't work to a cafe maybe or the park ad let your partner give him some expressed milk.

Forgot to mention partner wonderful he bottle feeds ds at night on formula milk as he still gets up 2/3 times a night!! Ok so it's a case of let the good times roll, thanks for you help you've all been wonderful x