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DD (13) has been using DH's credit card

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Creditcardtheft · 06/04/2010 23:35

DH has just been checking his credit card bills. He's discovered over £80 spent on itunes in March, £50 in February and a smaller sum in January. He had given her his credit card details to DD to order something online as a christmas present on the strict understanding that she deleted his card details.

We were dopey enough to think the card had been cloned but checked with DD who admitted it. We're in complete shock. She's in bed now. Suitable punishments?

(Name-changed as DD knows my name on here)

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totallydifferenttypeofperson · 06/04/2010 23:37

Withdrawal of some privilege involving her being trusted? Docking pocket money till the "debt" is repaid?

TheCrackFox · 06/04/2010 23:54

Chores to pay back the sum owed?

I don't have a teenager but I think I would go nuts.

whiteflame · 07/04/2010 05:41

not sure about the punishment, but alongside whatever you go with i would make sure that she understands just how serious this is... it must seem really easy to someone her age, and not really like theft at all (no actual money involved). so i'd sit her down and explain that as an adult this would be taken classed the same as stealing from a bank/shop etc.

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post · 07/04/2010 08:15

Take away the computer/ ipod/ whatever she put the music onto?

BelleDameSansMerci · 07/04/2010 08:17

Yep, take the iPod and (maybe??) delete the tunes she bought with the money. Makes the money wasted but if you don't then she's still gained from it...

DaisymooSteiner · 07/04/2010 08:19

Docking pocket money/savings, until it's repaid plus interest, would be punishment enough IMHO.

BessieBoots · 07/04/2010 08:19

Take it from me (and I know ) you need to be firm. Things can spiral- I'm not saying they will- But she really needs to understand the magnitude of what she's done. She must find a way of paying back the money (no pocket money til it's reimbursed?) and take away the ipod and comp until that's done.

Must be horrible for you... Hope you're okay.

msrisotto · 07/04/2010 08:20

Definitely make her repay it by docking pocketmoney (shouldn't have to pay your kids to do chores right? Don't you do them for free?)

JackRabbitBauer · 07/04/2010 08:47

Take the ipod first or delete the tunes from her itunes (discalimer, no idea what I am talking abotu re i things)
She stole them and therefore shouldn't get to keep them.
Make her repay it for sure.
Ground her for rest of the holidays.

izzybiz · 07/04/2010 08:52

Our Ds did this when he was 12
It was heartbreaking to think that my child could do something like that.

We made him get a paper round and took his pay till he had paid it all back, he was banned from using the PC for a very long time too. I agree with taking her i pod away too, she shouldn't get to use the music she has bought with the stolen money.

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Creditcardtheft · 07/04/2010 14:33

Thanks for all the responses. Much sadness. We've removed iphone and taken the money that she owes us away from her bank account.

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CarGirl · 07/04/2010 14:36

You do realise that you need card details to open use an itunes gift card don't you? So if she was ever given an itunes gift card she would have needed card details but in so she may not have deliberatey used the card details with the intention of using it IYSWIM.

We used a pretty much unused card for dd but she knows if she ends up using my credit card to buy tunes she will have to repay it. Our biggest issue is stopping her using beyond her internet usage on her phone but that's another saga.

JackRabbitBauer · 07/04/2010 14:44

Also, let her know how sad and disappointed you are but don't be too hard on yourselves. You trusted her to use the card and she abused that trust, it's not your fault.
Plus she will learn a valuable lesson from this and better she finds it out after stealing from you and not someone else IYSWIM.

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