Same sex siblings sharing a bedroom

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I'm currently pg with ds2 and when he arrives ds1 will be 3.3yo. I intend to have ds2 in our bedroom for the first 3 or 4 months but after that they may need to share (unless we are able to move house before Christmas). What age would be best to put the cot with DS2 in DS1's room? Has anyone else got experience with this age gap and had their two DD/DSs sharing a room? I've just been having worries of DS1 pestering DS2 at night and mornings, and thinking it may not be safe for them both to be in the same bedroom because of the biggish age gap IYSWIM.

Please share your advice and experience.

I have 4 dd's who share 2 bedrooms, dd1 and dd2 who are 8 and 5 share one and dd3 (2) and dd4(17mo) share the other.

Now that dd4 is sharing with dd3 I try to get dd4 to bed a little bit earlier so that she can settle without dd3 trying to help! Luckily although they do both wake in the night they don't actually wake eachother. They both seem to wake up at the same time but as it's usually a reasonable hour it's not a problem.

thanks 4andnotout - I'm just trying to mentally work out how it's going to work. The main goal is to move house at some point this year but have to wait until DH's job is secure (alot of unsettlement just now) so can't really move until then. I'm trying to be realistic and just worst-cast scenario picture two boys sharing a room as it will probably be like that to begin with. I'm worried about the age gap because I remember DS1 being a noisy sleeper in his cot so we moved him into his own room at 4 months old (quite early compared to some) and I don't want DS2 being annoyed by DS1 at all hours of the day and night. Will probably have to see how it works out nearer the time.

There's 15 months between our two, they've always shared a room, well, apart from the first 9 or so months of ds2 life, when he was in his cot in our room. Not something we've every really actively done anything about, if you get me. We just put the cot in the room and then that was where they both slept.

come to think of it, we don't really put a lot of thought or planning into most aspects of our parenting. I wonder if Winging It would make a good book

One of them will keep the other awake, then the next night they'll have their revenge but they sleep, they play, and they're 9 and 10 now and still sharing a room.

And we're still winging it.

my 2 have shared since ds1 was about 3 and a half and ds2 was a year old

once ds3 stops feeding at night he'll be in with them as well!!

ds1 has never, ever woken when ds2 gets up in the night though. even when he cried really loudly

that's reassuring thisisyesterday - the crying bit

thanks also for your advice justmytwopenceworth - I may have to see how ds2 is at sleeping, he may be completely different to ds1 and not need to be moved out of our bedroom quite so soon.