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My DD1 friends are being mean. Grrrrrrrrrrrrr.

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hollieg · 03/04/2010 20:28

Hi there, i need some impartial advice before i do or say something i will regret.

My dd1 aged 12 has had a few best friend changes over the years which is normal for most girls. There has been some upsets and tears over this time and things that were very major problems always got sorted in the end.

However, her current bf has been on the scene for the last two years and although they seem close she is a bit of a user. We are always having to take her with us whenever we go out she asks herself round for tea and has regular sleepovers at ours. All this with no thanks, which i wouldn't necessary expect at her age, though to be honest i can't take to her.

They hang around in a group of other girls the same age, though the bf is very possessive of my dd and doesn't like her getting particularly friendly with any of the other girls. However the bf regularly goes out with and socialises with the other and takes on a bit of a queen bee attitude. She is always the one to instigate gossip about one of the other girls which i know they all do to some extent.

Take today as an example, my dd was invited to go out today shopping with her bf and another girl who my daughter is also very good friends with, she has been excited about all week. However, after spending the morning checking her phone she was not called and invited leaving the other two girls to go out without her. In fact they have been posting on Facebook how great today was and they are going to the pictures this evening.

I know i should be the grown up in this situation but i'm as mad as hell. I feel like telling this little cow her fortune but i know i can't.

My husband just said to ignore this continuing situation but i feel it is my job to make it all better.

Help!

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Dominique07 · 03/04/2010 20:36

Well can you help her out by taking her to some groups where she can make new friends?

NK5c74826eX126faefc14d · 03/04/2010 20:43

You can be there for your dd and give her sympathy and support when she's upset but I wouldn't get involved in her friendships. Encourage her to make other friends at schools/clubs etc but she has to realise for herself if this girl is being mean.

hollieg · 04/04/2010 00:34

Yeah i know, i felt a bit better just typing the thread out to be honest. I took my aggression out on the keyboard instead.

It's hard to think that they are going to face some crap in their life and you just have to stand by and watch.

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