annoyed at dp and how he deals with our ds

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ok, so i dont no if im posting this in the right place but here go's...

My ds is 3 and earlier while having massive tantrum he started to slap my dp in the face so my dp swept him off his feet knocking him on the floor and said that no one will hurt him without geting hurt....!!

I was so pissed off....usually i would just say NO HITTING and pick up my ds and put him in the corner untill he says sorry.

My dp's reasoning for doing this was that if someone else hit him (my ds) he needs to know to hit them back and that he said my way of doing it was supid because if someone else hit him its not a practical solution to put someone in the corner!!

Our parenting styles are always clashing am just posting this really as need to vent and also need some reasurrance that his way of dealing with it was totally out of order!!!

Your DP is a bully and a tw*t. That isn't a parenting style, it's an unpleasant personality.

I wouldn't put up with anyone treating my DCs like that. Is he violent with you too?

Wow. Don't leave your child alone with him. He's a child himself

So you teach a child not to hit by hitting them? Or you teach a child to hit people back that hit them?

Where is the fucking logic in that?!!!

Bullying tw*t.

I think your dp is really out of order! How can he do that to a 3 year old.
Yes, there is a part of all of us that would like our children to be able to stick up for themselves, but I really don't think it is right to teach them to hit back, but that isn't the issue here is it?
What your dp has done, has nothing to do with parenting skills, it has to do with the fact that he sounds like a clueless bully.
It would be different if your ds was say 17 and had a chance to defend himself, but 3 years old.
Shocking.

That's truly nasty. Your DS would have thought he was playing, your DH knew he would hurt his child and did it on purpose.

Sounds like your poor DS is going to end up living in fear if your DHs immediate reaction is violence to a pretty standard child action.

Your P sounds like a very dangerous man, he's not at a punch up at the pub he's dealing with a child!